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Summer for Marriage Tour 2010!

In a few days, NOM will be launching our Summer for Marriage Tour 2010, taking the message for marriage directly to the American people and building support for marriage all across the eastern half of the United States.

Over 33 days, we’ll travel more than 6000 miles, holding rallies in 23 cities from Maine to Minnesota to Atlanta and Tampa before heading back to Washington, DC for the tour finale on August 15th.

Many of the states we’ll be visiting are key battlegrounds in this critical debate, as we work to organize grassroots support for marriage as the union of a husband and wife at both the state federal levels, building support for state marriage amendments and opposing the repeal of DOMA.

Please visit www.marriagetour2010.com for the latest tour information, including the bus schedule, a chance to register for email alerts from the tour, and video footage of each tour stop.

We need your help to make this summer’s tour a success! Please click here to make your online contribution today. $60 would cover a penny per mile! $115 would be $5 toward the costs of each rally. Whatever you can give will go far as we work together to organize support for marriage all across the nation!

Then tell your friends and come out to see us when we come to your hometown this summer!

WaPo Reporter Who Called Marriage Supporters Bigots Resigns

David Weigel has resigned after numerous emails surfaced disparaging conservatives.  Weigel was hired as a conservative to cover the "conservative beat" for WaPo. A few weeks ago, he blogged that he has sympathy for everyone he covers except for those who oppose gay marriage, whom he called "bigots."  Now it appears his sympathies for conservatives are more generally limited. Weigel Resigns:  http://www.politico.com/blogs/bensmith/0610/Weigel_resigns.html

Background: More Leaked Weigel Emails: http://www.politico.com/blogs/onmedia/

Letter From Brian

Dear Friend of Marriage,

Black Democrats to the rescue of marriage!

Saturday I had the honor of attending the D.C. State Democratic Convention with Bishop Harry Jackson.

African-Americans for marriage turned out in force, shocking the D.C. establishment!

I wish you could have been there. Strong marriage supporters, unafraid of the media or anything else, chanting "Let us vote! Let us vote!" If the mainstream media were what it should be, this would be the picture in every living room in America: Politicians blocking the door to the voting booth against citizens of D.C. in order to impose gay marriage on an unwilling populace.

The political establishment was shocked when all these newfound activists almost knocked off Harry Thomas in the straw poll the DC Dems conducted. His opponent, Delano Hunter, is a strong marriage supporter, eager to knock off a politician who ignored the will of his constituents and voted for gay marriage.

Exciting times!

They keep telling us "the culture has changed, gay marriage is the future." When they stop blocking the path to the voting booth, when they accept the legitimacy of elections like the one which passed Prop 8, then maybe they would have something believable to say about that. Let the people vote!

It's going to be a hard fight through the courts to vindicate the people's right to vote in D.C., but we are fighting for their rights and the rights of all Americans. Just as in Prop 8 last week, NOM's Chairman Maggie Gallagher was there, and NOM's Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund is helping fight for our constitutional rights.

If you believe in the right to vote, can you help us defend the Constitution from these ongoing attacks? We need to raise $8,479 in the next 48 hours for NOM's Legal Defense Fund, which supports not only Prop 8's able lawyers and the legal campaign to win back the right to vote in D.C., but also litigation designed to protect voters and donors from campaigns of harassment and intimidation. I am looking for 150 people willing to donate $57 each. Will you step forward to be one of NOM's 150 for the Legal Defense of Marriage?

Not everyone has money to give, we understand. (With six kids, believe me, I understand!) So here's something else you can do for marriage this week. Republican leaders have put up a website, America Speaks Out. But it's being slammed by liberals trying to create the impression that Republicans support gay marriage. We asked for your help on this before, but the website had glitches. Here's the good news: They've been fixed. Go here, login and vote "Thumbs Up" to protect marriage between a man and a woman.

Thank you!

How many times have you heard that you and I are like racists because we know that to make a marriage you need a husband and wife? Gay-rights advocates say this over and over--most recently, former judicial conservative Ted Olson stood before Judge Vaughn Walker and repeated this point ad nauseam. They don't just say we are racists; they try to get courts to rule as if marriage were akin to racism, founded only in bigotry. They use this argument in D.C., San Francisco and all across this country as their principle justification to taking away our right to vote for marriage.

Good news. Heritage Foundation's Tom Messner just published a devastating critique of "the race analogy" in National Review Online. It’s posted here. Check it out.

His sensible conclusion?

"Defending marriage is not similar to defending racism. Loving didn't fundamentally redefine the natural understanding of marriage. Rather, the 1967 decision rescued marriage from an extreme ideology that sought to hijack marriage for purposes unrelated to marriage itself. Today, the courts faced with Perry and similar litigation should do the same."

In other words, it is gay-rights advocates who (like the racists of old with their bans on interracial marriage) are trying to hijack marriage for ideological purposes that have nothing to do with marriage's core mission.

Of course their motivations are "progressive" rather than racist and that makes a difference, but it doesn't change the fact that gay marriage is an illegitimate attempt to "take over" a natural institution and reality and use it for new ideological purposes.

As Chuck Cooper pointed out in the final arguments in San Francisco last week, race was never part of the natural definition of marriage. Interracial marriage had to be "banned" because people understood that these were marriages; the bans were designed to keep two races separate so one race could oppress the other. That's what the 14th Amendment was designed to prevent, not the common-sense understanding of marriage.

Thanks Tom for speaking out for the truth, common sense, and sound and intelligent understanding!

And thank you, my friends and fellow comrades in this great battle for God's truth about marriage, for all that you make possible.

We've got big plans for this summer: to fight back against out of control judges, and to defend the votes of millions of Americans from out-of-control judges and an out-of-touch political elite. I can't tell you more right now but stay tuned, it’s going to be exciting.

Let me end on a small grace note. We do so much here at NOM that I can only tell you a part of it. But one young college student recently wrote to thank us, in this case Maggie.

"I recently wrote a college paper on marriage as public policy, and I could not have done it without the extensive work you have done on the subject. I've read your newspaper columns before, but until I started researching this topic I was unaware of the exhaustive treatment you had given the matter. I am now more fully prepared to discuss and defend traditional marriage with any who wish to confront the issue. Your writings on the matter are at the same time intellectually challenging and emotionally compelling. Thank you for making so much information available. I hope anyone who wavers finds your work and is strengthened by it as I was."

The next generation. That's what it's all about, isn't it?

You are the reason we can do so much. God bless you and strengthen you and your family, this day and always.

Semper fi!

Faithfully,

Brian S. Brown
President
National Organization for Marriage
2029 K Street, NW, Suite 300
Washington, DC  20006
bbrown@nationformarriage.org

NY Assemblyman Opposes No-Fault Divorce

The statement of Michael Benjamin, D-Bronx:

Assembly Member Benjamin - Statement Against No-Fault Divorce

I am opposed to no-fault divorce because it would harm most women in divorce proceedings. According to the National Marriage Project at Rutger’s University, a woman’s standard of living drops by an average of 27% and a man’s increases by 10% following a divorce.

In addition to the economic disadvantages imposed by this bill, I am also against no-fault divorce because it would define marriage as something temporary and trivial. Under the provisions of the law, marriage would essentially be defined as a contract that could be broken at any time, for any reason.

Due to the economic disadvantage that women face, combined with my unwillingness to break down the blessed institution of marriage, I can not in good conscience vote for no-fault divorce.

Maggie: How Does Biology Matter?

Do our bodies matter or is everything socially constructed?  This interview with a donor conceived young woman shows an incredibly sophisticated, nuanced exploration of how fatherhood--yes biological fatherhood, and motherhood, matter.

She was donor conceived, her older sister was adopted, and her younger brother, a product of her mom's second marriage, was born to and raised by his natural mother and father.

A social experiment all in one family that gives this young woman some incredible insights.  http://ia360700.us.archive.org/13/items/MyDaddysNameIsDonor/20100619sveta.mp3

"Dads are Not Second-Class Mothers"

Prof. Brad Wilcox interview at NRO on the research on fatherless children, and well-fathered children.

http://corner.nationalreview.com/post/?q=Mjk4ZDQ2ODRmMjdlMTMwZTVmNzJlYjY1MTk2YWM2MGU=

24 hours remaining – Help reach our $50K goal for Prop 8 Defense!

Yesterday, we asked you to help fund the Prop 8 legal defense with a donation to the NOM Legal Defense Fund. Many of you stepped up and we have now raised $15,000 toward our $50,000 goal.

It’s a good start, but with 24 hours remaining, I’m asking you to please make a gift right now to help us reach our goal.

It’s urgent that we finish the trial stage of this litigation fully funded, so that we can begin planning the thorough and comprehensive appeal strategy that will be needed – regardless of how Judge Walker rules in the trial court.  We can’t afford to let financial considerations dictate the outcome of this case.

We don’t have the backing of wealthy Hollywood liberals or gay billionaires – we all need to step up and make sure the Prop 8 defense team has the resources to protect marriage -- all the way to the Supreme Court, if necessary. If everyone receiving this email were to give just $10, we would reach our goal many times over. Will you join us today?

Please click here to make an urgent online contribution of $10, $25, $50 or even $500 if you can afford it. All gifts are tax deductible, and every dollar will go toward the Prop 8 litigation expenses.  We have until noon Saturday to reach our goal. Please make your gift right now.

Support the Prop 8 Legal Defense!

After a marathon day of closing arguments, interviews, and press conferences yesterday, one thing is certain: The fight for Prop 8 is just beginning and we’re in this for the long haul.

Let me be clear: The battle over Prop 8 is a battle for the future of marriage in America. Ted Olson made no pretense yesterday – his goal is to overturn marriage not just in California but in every state across the nation, striking down state laws and constitutional amendments in 45 states.

As Maggie told the press after leaving the courtroom yesterday afternoon:

Chuck Cooper is a heckuva lawyer. At stake in this case is the future of marriage in all 50 states, and he's right that this attempt to shut down the debate by constitutionalizing gay marriage will backfire. Americans have a right to vote for marriage. Ted Olson doesn't seem to understand the argument,  and judging from today's exchanges, neither does Judge Walker. I expect Judge Walker will overrule Prop 8.  But millions of Americans do understand why marriage is the union of husband and wife and I believe the majority of the Supreme Court will as well.

We must be there every step of the way. Will you stand with us today? Over the next 48 hours, we have set a goal to raise $50,000 for the defense of Prop 8. Your gifts are tax deductible, and every dollar raised will go directly toward the legal fees and litigation expenses incurred in the Prop 8 trial.

Most of us can afford $20, or even $50 to help fight for marriage. (Think one less meal out with your family this month.) Some may even be able to give $100, $500 or $1000. Whatever you can afford, your gift is urgently needed. Please click here to make an online donation that will help ensure that we can take this fight all the way to the United States Supreme Court.

Chuck Cooper and all the Prop 8 legal team have been very generous with their time – but still the costs of a lengthy trial, followed by two years of appeals all the way to the United States Supreme Court, will run into the hundreds of thousands of dollars, perhaps into the millions.  Our side doesn’t have a handful of Hollywood liberals and gay billionaires to fund our efforts – this is about all of us coming together to do what we can.

Consider these words from Pastor Jim Garlow – pastor of Skyline Wesleyan Church in San Diego, and founder of the California Pastors Rapid Response Team:

“[The same-sex marriage debate] is THE major change point of the last few decades.  While the abortion issue is a foundational issue, the marriage definition issue is a survival issue.  No single social issue has threatened to forever muzzle Bible believing Christians like this contest.

"If we lose on this one, the culture loses.  One person has astutely observed that ’we cannot win the culture war merely on Prop 8, but we can lose it on Prop 8.'

"It is imperative that all pastors and Christian leaders view this for what it is: an irretrievable moment, with profound and lasting consequences.  We must vigorously support Prop 8, as if our ministries and our lives depend on it.  Ultimately, they will."

Losing simply isn’t an option. As most of you know by now, at NOM we have seen victory after stunning victory over the past two years, not because we had the largest organizational structure or the biggest lobbying budget, but because we have been willing to stand in the breach and put everything on the line. Together we have stood firm, shocking the media pundits and gay marriage activists alike, with victories in California, Maine, New York and New Jersey.

It’s time to do it again. Please stand with us and make your most generous contribution today! Together we will take this fight for marriage and the rights of California voters all the way to the Supreme Court – and win!

Statement From Maggie

"Chuck Cooper is a heckuva lawyer. At stake in this case is the future of marriage in all 50 states, and he's right that this attempt to shut down the debate by constitutionalizing gay marriage will backfire. Americans have a right to vote for marriage. Ted Olson doesn't seem to understand the argument, and judging from today's exchanges neither does Judge Walker. I expect Judge Walker will overrule Prop 8.   But millions of Americans do understand why marriage is the union of husband and wife and I believe the majority of the Supreme Court will as well."

Live Commentary from Brian Brown: 4pm ET

Friends,

Given the way the day's events are shaping up, we've rearranged the day’s schedule a bit. This gives us a chance to connect with you midway through the day, and then to return for a recap when the arguments wrap up.

I will now be providing live, interactive video commentary on the morning’s developments at 4pm Eastern Time (1pm Pacific time). This is YOUR chance to log on and ask questions regarding the case or the arguments being made by the plaintiffs’ lawyers.

At 4pm Eastern, please log on to www.prop8case.com and click on the link under the live video feed that says: "Watch in High Quality and Chat Live."  You’ll then be able to submit your question, and I’ll respond to as many as I can.

Later, when the day's arguments are over, Maggie Gallagher will be checking in from San Francisco with her recap of the day.

Meanwhile, please stay active on Twitter and Facebook . . . our opponents love to try to shout us down in these forums, or overwhelm us with the sheer volume of posts. Let's make sure our side is heard as well! We're tweeting #prop8 and @nomtweets!

See you at 4pm Eastern at www.prop8case.com!

Brian Brown

President, National Organization for Marriage