Frances Kelley, a conservative writer in Vermont, asks "Which came first: The SSM Wedge or NOM?"

"Answer: The wedge was already there.

Same-sex marriage activists are disturbed that the National Organization for Marriage reached out to enlist the help of minorities to defend pro-gender marriage.

... The elephant in the room is the big fat wedge that existed long before NOM came into existence to defend marriage from activists who want to change it entirely by removing the gender-integrated component. Perhaps they believe that if they keep blaming NOM, no one will notice that it is same-sex marriage itself that pits American against American, creates a new minority of gender-segregated "married" couples, and divides families by deliberately preventing children from having a relationship with both a mother and a father.

... Which came first, the pro-gender position or the wedge?

For millennia, people have honored gender integration in marriage. Don't blame NOM. Gay rights activists are the ones pushing segregation. The biggest wedge of all is separating men and women in marriage." -- Renew America