Over at First Things, a wonderful evangelical theologican Ron Sider, who cares very deeply about marriage, argues the way to deflect the charge of hatred and bigotry is to behave with greater Christian charity towards suffering gay people, especially AIDS victim.

It takes a Catholic to gently respond from our Church's experience: no that won't reduce the hatred flung our way. But we should do it anyway.

My favorite line from Jeff Mirus' essay is the last one: "And while I can certainly agree that if love is a strategy, it is the greatest of all strategies—nonetheless I cannot get past that “if”."