Andrea Askowitz, author of "My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy” writes in the NYT's "Modern Love" section:

The nurse came in and showed Victoria the vial of my donor’s sperm. She gave us the sperm’s stats: fast and abundant. Victoria confirmed the donor number.

“Can I do the insemination?” I asked.

Before the nurse answered, Victoria said, “I don’t think you can do that.”

I felt clubbed in the head.

MY moment was now and the woman I loved — my woman with childbearing hips — was thwarting my destiny. [source]