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Gay Activists Claim French Church's Prayer for Children Creating "Discrimination and Homophobia"

Reuters:

Roman Catholic congregations in churches across France prayed for traditional marriage on Wednesday, provoking accusations of homophobia from gay rights groups as Paris prepares to legalize same-sex matrimony.

The rare clerical foray into political debate, on the Assumption Day holiday observed in traditionally Catholic countries in Europe, referred only indirectly to the new marriage law the government plans to pass next year.

But the carefully worded text, first published earlier this month, dominated the news headlines in France, where the media have presented it as a strong attack on the reform.

Church leaders insisted their aim was to launch an open debate about plans to legalize same-sex marriage and euthanasia, two in a list of 60 pledges made by Francois Hollande in his successful election campaign for the presidency last spring.

"The Church wants a debate about social reforms that are coming soon and that really worry us," Monsignor Bernard Podvin, spokesman for the bishops' conference, told LCI television.

"This prayer does not exclude anyone," he said.

Gay rights groups disagreed. "This message is fertile ground for discrimination and homophobia," Michael Bouvard of the SOS Homophobie group told LCI. Secularists have also asked if the Church should publicly take sides in a political debate.

Here is a Google translation of the part of the prayer which the gay rights groups are saying represents "discrimination and homophobia":

"4. For children and youth that all we help everyone to discover their own path to progress towards happiness they cease to be the objects of desires and conflicts of adults to fully benefit from the love of a father and a mother."

IBD Editorial: "Crickets Chirp When Leftist Hate Inspires Violence"

The Investor's Business Daily with an editorial on the FRC shooter:

A gay activist opens fire in a conservative organization's offices, inspired by the steady drumbeat of leftist vitriol against those who value traditional marriage, and no one says a word.

You won't hear any call for civil discourse from President Obama's bully pulpit over the shooting and wounding of a security guard at the offices of the conservative Family Research Council (FRC) in Washington, D.C.

The alleged shooter was a volunteer at a community center for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people, and the FRC favors traditional marriage.

Those who blamed Sarah Palin for the shooting of Congresswoman Gabriel Giffords or Rush Limbaugh for the Oklahoma City bombing are strangely silent.

At least the likes of ABC's Brian Ross didn't reflexively blame the Tea Party, as he did after a gunman shot up an Aurora, Colo., movie theater.

On Tuesday, the Human Rights Campaign put on its blog a piece titled, "Paul Ryan Speaking at Hate Group's Annual Conference," referring to the FRC.

It said that the "FRC has been labeled a hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center. It's a group that has advocated for the criminalization of homosexuality, called for LGBT people to be exported from the U.S., and has pushed dangerous lies trying to link being gay to pedophilia."

The FRC has done none of those things but that didn't stop the Daily Kos from vilifying the FRC for its support of Chick-fil-A: "Chick-fil-A's corporate 'charity' arm WinShape has donated millions of dollars to groups like Family Research Council. FRC doesn't just oppose marriage equality, they really do HATE gays."

Rick Santorum to Campaign for Marriage in Washington State

SeattlePI:

Former Republican presidential candidate Rick Santorum, an outspoken, longstanding critic of gay rights, will appear in Bellevue and Spokane this fall, as ballots that include a same-sex marriage referendum get mailed to Washington voters.

Santorum is slated to speak at events Oct. 9 and 10 sponsored by the Family Policy Institute of Washington, which upholds the “sanctity” of marriage and advocates “lifelong heterosexual monogamous marriage.”

Joseph Backholm, head of the institute, helped put Referendum 74 on the ballot and chairs Preserve Marriage Washington, which is mobilizing the “No” campaign.

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ADF Video: Why Marriage Matters

Alliance Defending Freedom has released this excellent video explaining why marriage (and laws protecting marriage) matter -- please help us share this far and wide with those who need to see it!

"To the person(s) who stole our Vote Yes yard sign in support of marriage between one man and one woman: I forgive you."

We in the pro-marriage movement know how often our pro-marriage yard signs are stolen.

This is not an isolated or rare occurrence -- it is an epidemic of theft and free speech suppression.

And yet, this Minnesota man chose to respond with love and forgiveness when his sign was stolen:

To the person(s) who stole our Vote Yes yard sign in support of marriage between one man and one woman:

I forgive you.

Are you really so afraid of democracy that you would break the law to silence my voice?

You can steal all of my yard signs, but you will not steal my vote.

Has someone stolen your yard sign? I hope not! I believe in free speech … even if I disagree with it.

I’d like to know how putting a yard sign out is hateful and bigoted ... and your action … is out of love and respect. -- Winona Daily News

Video: Breaking the Spiral of Silence When it Comes to Defending Marriage

Check out this creative video which aims to inspire Christians and other people of faith to break the spiral of silence on such important issues as life and marriage!

Announcing Brown vs. Savage

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Dear Marriage Supporter,

Recent events have certainly taught us that the tenor of the debate about marriage in America needs to change. Personally targeting folks for their position on marriage, and labeling them bigots or haters, is completely inappropriate, and—as we have seen all too graphically—it can be dangerous, too!

In recent weeks, we've witnessed mayors using the "bully pulpit" to tell Dan Cathy and his company, Chick-fil-A, that they aren't welcome in certain cities. We've seen organizations that claim the goal of preserving civility and diversity rashly and arbitrarily assigning terms like "hate group" simply because of a difference in opinion. We've seen, sadly, one crazed individual inspired by this rhetoric to take his own warped sense of the law into his own hands and nearly commit mass-murder, stopped only by the grace of God and the quick action of a heroic security guard.

The way in which the debate about marriage is conducted in our country is not a new concern for me. Months ago, when Dan Savage took to his own bully pulpit to harass and demean Christian high-school students, I issued a challenge to him for a civil and adult debate on the topic of marriage. The American people deserve better from the designated representative of the White House's anti-bullying campaign than to have him spewing invective at young people less than half his age who don't even have the chance to talk back. And the American people deserve better from the debate over the future of marriage in general.

So, Dan Savage and I made arrangements to meet. I flew out to the West Coast to have dinner with Dan at his house, and the long anticipated debate over marriage was finally held—on Wednesday, August 15th. A piece covering the debate will be out soon in the New York Times, but the whole thing was video-taped as well.

To make sure you don't miss out on this exciting video, NOM has set up a brand-new website dedicated to the event—www.BrownVSavage.com. We'll be posting the video of the debate there soon, and I'll be sure to let you know when it's available.

In the meantime, I want to encourage you to take a moment to watch this inspiring new video from the Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance. We've posted this on www.BrownVSavage.com to underscore why my debate with Dan is so timely and so important.

The new video features one of the young people who was at the journalism conference in Seattle where Dan, in an "anti-bullying" speech, belittled and bullied his Christian audience members in such an appalling way. The girl featured is named Julia Naman, a high-school student with an adult dose of courage; I promise you, her and her father's inspiring message is not to be missed!

 

"When the mass majority of people are against you and against what you believe, and they're clapping...that you're getting made fun of and ridiculed...it's going to be scary walking out and standing up for your faith," said Julia. "But it's definitely necessary," she continued, "and once you're...face-to-face with God, and He'll bring up that situation and say, 'What did you do...to represent me?', standing up for Him would have been the right decision in that situation."

What an inspiring young person! God bless Julia for her courage and her conviction to "stand up for Him." It should give us hope for the future of marriage in our country seeing the bravery of young people like her!

Please stay tuned to www.BrownVSavage.com for the upcoming video release of my debate with Dan. Meanwhile, I'll continue to stand strong for marriage on your behalf, with your help, debating the matter (with civility and charity), wherever and whenever the opportunity arises! Julia Naman wasn't afraid to stand up, so we can't be either. The stakes are just too high!

Now, more than ever in America, we need civilized, calm, reasonable discussion about marriage: about its importance for our country, for our communities, and—most of all—for our children. We owe this to our kids. We owe it to anyone who has ever been bullied for taking a stand in this debate, anyone whose views have been shouted down by those who just don't want to listen to reason.

So please join the debate today by visiting www.BrownVSavage.com. Together, let's continue to stand strong for marriage—to refuse to be bullied into silence, to speak the truth boldly but always with love, and to provide worthy models for the next generation of what civic discourse in American can and should be!

Breaking News: GOP Platform Draft Strongly Defends Marriage!

NOM has been hard at work organizing support for marriage and DOMA in advance of the Republican Party convention in Tampa next week -- and these efforts are already achieving results:

The Republican Party platform will strongly oppose the Obama administration's decision not to defend the Defense of Marriage Act, the federal law that bars recognition of same-sex couples' marriages, in court and will support "a constitutional amendment defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman," according to the draft platform language approved by subcommittees today.

The language must still be adopted by the full committee on Tuesday and then by the convention delegates in Tampa next week. According to the draft documents obtained by BuzzFeed from two subcommittees, the Restoring Constitutional Government subcommittee and the Health, Education and Crime subcommittee, the platform will take those two positions, as well as "support[ing] campaigns underway in several other states" to amend their constitutions to recognize only marriages between one man and one woman.

...Calling out "an activist judiciary," the draft document blasts "court-ordered redefinition of marriage" before taking on the Obama administration.

"We oppose the Administration's open defiance of this principle [of separation of powers] — in its handling of immigration cases, in federal personnel benefits, in allowing a same-sex marriage at a military base, and in refusing to defend DOMA in the courts," the draft states.

Finally, after praising the benefits of marriage, the draft documents state, "[W]e believe that marriage, the union of one man and one woman must be upheld as the national standard, a goal to stand for, encourage, and promote through laws governing marriage." -- BuzzFeed

Maggie on Book TV's "Debating Same-Sex Marriage"

Contrary to what C-Span thinks our co-founder Maggie Gallagher does want to win the debate over same-sex marriage!

Here's how C-Span's Book TV introduced her appearance with co-author John Corvino of Wayne State:

"Gay rights advocate John Corvino and conservative columnist Maggie Gallagher engage in a point/counterpoint discussion of gay marriage.  Their intended goal is not to win the debate but to raise and clarify as many points of disagreement as possible, explaining not only how they disagree but why."

You can pick-up a copy of her new book here.

Graphic: Why Marriage is Controversial

A lay Catholic in California put together a graphic showing why debating marriage can be "fraught with peril" -- it also underscores how central to society the meaning and definition of marriage is:

NYTimes on Senator Chuck Schumer: The Capital Cupid

The New York Times proves "nudging" works!

Even by the standards of Capitol Hill, where ambitious and awkward young people are thrust together in cramped workplaces and crowded bars, the nuptial output of Senator Charles E. Schumer’s office stands out.

Schumer staff members, put simply, like to marry each other. There have been 10 weddings so far, and two more scheduled this fall — an average of nearly one “Schumer Marriage” (his term) for each year he has spent in the Senate.

Cupid’s arrow lands where it will, but many of the couples say that Mr. Schumer, a New York Democrat, has an unusual knack for guiding its journey. He keeps close track of office romances, quotes marriage-friendly Scripture (“God to man: be fruitful and multiply”), and is known to cajole, nag, and outright pester his staff (at least those he perceives as receptive to such pestering) toward connubial bliss.

...The encouragement rarely stops at the altar. Mr. Schumer is described by aides as a fabulous wedding guest, quick to request a Jefferson Starship song from the D.J. and eager to dance with the bride. And his focus, like many a politician’s, never strays far from his legacy: first comes Schumer Marriage, then come Schumer Babies.

“Have kids; have a lot of kids,” Mr. Schumer, who has two daughters, is known to intone. “Start early and keep having them.”

Marquardt & Culhane Write in Opposition to California's "Multiple Parents" Bill

John Culhane, Professor of Law and Director of the Health Law Institute at Widener University School of Law and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Institute for American Values write in the Huffington Post:

When it comes to parenting, three's a crowd. SB 1476, the "Parent-Child Relationships" bill introduced by state senator Mark Leno, which seeks to clarify judges' ability to recognize more than two legal parents for a child, is well-intended but flawed. It has passed the senate and could reach the assembly floor this month. California legislators should not support this bill.

... And why stop at three? Senator Leno's bill places no limit on the number of possible parents. If three's a crowd, four or more is a mob.

...Prominent LGBT rights organizations have come out in support of this bill, but the issues it addresses are not limited to same-sex couples. For example, In Re M.C. would not have been different if already-pregnant Melissa had married a man. The ambiguity about who is the legal parent, the biological father or (in that case) the husband, would remain. And in either case, the court should make that decision.

Courts are dealing with complex and often tragic situations. The search for responsible adults can tempt judges into "discovering" additional parents. But the law should continue to use, and refine, more precise instruments to assist children without warping the sound "rule of two."

Politico: Gay Marriage Endorsement Caused "Disharmony" in White House

Politico has published a behind-the-scenes report about, among other things, what happened in the White House during the roll-out of Obama's same-sex marriage switch:

Biden’s misstep, also in May, in announcing his approval of gay marriage — which forced Obama to do the same before he intended — caused greater disharmony in the White House than was reported at the time.

Biden blamed Campaign Manager Jim Messina for “throwing him under the bus” with the media during the gay-marriage flap — a charge that turned out to be untrue. In an emotional one-on-one meeting with Obama, Biden apologized profusely and said he’d been betrayed by Obama’s aides.

The president tried to calm him down, saying, “Look, Joe, there are people who want to divide us. You and I have to be on the same page from now on. You and I have to make sure that we don’t get divided.”

Plouffe and other West Wingers were even angrier that Biden had screwed up his boss’s carefully laid plans to announce his position before next month’s Charlotte convention — even as Biden previously had counseled against weighing in on the issue for fear of alienating battleground-state independents.

FRC Shooter May Have Targeted At Least One Other Pro-Family Organization

The AP:

The head of a second Christian conservative organization said Friday she was told by authorities that a note containing her group's contact information was found in the pocket of a man charged with opening fire at the Washington offices of another such group, wounding a security guard.

Traditional Values Coalition President Andrea Lafferty said FBI agents visited her group's Capitol Hill offices hours after the Wednesday morning shooting as part of their investigation. The next day, she said, members of the Joint Terrorism Task Force came by and confirmed that "our information was in his pocket," including the location of the group's offices.

"I was stunned," Lafferty told The Associated Press, adding that she believes her group may have been targeted.

... Like the FRC, the Traditional Values Coalition has supported the president of Chick-Fil-A and his staunch opposition to same-sex marriage.

Tony Perkins, who heads the Family Research Council, hinted Thursday at a news conference that the FRC was not the only group targeted, although he did not elaborate.

"Maybe, going forward, you may find out more information that we may not have been the only one," he said.