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Study's Newsflash: Nearby Guys Aren't Dads

This is the latest edition of the U.S. National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study. We are still waiting for anyone to criticize this study for not using a random sample, or for saying stability doesn't matter to children (see Pediatrics 2010, Gartrell).

In this latest edition they are reporting that children raised by two lesbian moms do not do better if they report having a "male role model":

"...About half of the young people in the study, both boys and girls, report having a significant male role model in their life, even though they have two mothers. But there was no difference in psychological well-being between those who have such a role model and those who do not. There was also no evidence that the presence of a male role model affects traits commonly associated with gender roles or that boys require a male role model to be well-adjusted.

Previous research based on this study has found no difference in well-being between children raised in lesbian families and and those in heterosexual two-parent families. The study is confined to planned lesbian families, meaning that both partners identified as lesbian before having children. Researchers recruited participants between 1986 and 1992 and have checked in with them at various points in their lives. Most of the participants are middle-class." -- The Advocate

California Committee Passes Bill Redefining Marriage as "A Personal Relation"

CitizenLink:

The General Assembly Judiciary Committee passed SB 1140 on a 7-1 vote late Tuesday afternoon.

State Sen. Mark Leno says his legislation is meant to protect churches that refuse to perform same-sex ceremonies from being threatened with the loss of their tax-exempt status in the future. Should the bill become law, it would define marriage as “a personal relation arising out of a civil, and not religious, contract.”

The bill, which passed the Senate nearly three weeks ago, may soon come before the full General Assembly for a floor vote.

Ron Prentice, executive director of the California Family Council, pointed out that the bill was drafted by the gay-activist group Equality California — and its only real purpose is to get same-sex marriage on the legislative fast track should the U.S. Supreme Court strike down the state’s current constitutional amendment defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman.

Legal Scholar Linton on the "Collusive Lawsuit" to Redefine Marriage in Illinois

Paul Linton, special counsel for the Thomas More Society in Chicago, writes at Public Discourse:

"...The fact that advocates of same-sex marriage uniformly oppose public votes on state constitutional amendments that would define marriage as a union of a man and a woman is telling evidence that they do not believe what they say. If advocates of same-sex marriage believe that the people of Illinois are now prepared to accept same-sex marriage, let’s have the General Assembly put the issue on the November ballot and we’ll see who wins. Same-sex marriage should not come in the back door, via an arguably collusive lawsuit in which no one charged with the responsibility of enforcing the law actually defends it."

The Sanctity of a Comic Book Gay Wedding, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

X-Men Comics is depicting a gay superhero wedding. "Northstar," who came out as gay in 1992, is now proposing to "Kyle."

Marvel Comics editor-in-chief Axel Alonso said, "Marvel has a long and proud tradition of reflecting the world in all its diversity, and this is just one more example of that."

Marjorie Liu, an X-Men writer, told Rolling Stone she wanted to inspire others to follow their footsteps. "Here are two people, trying to live their lives—mutant and gay, black and gay—empowered in their own ways, but also fringe-dwellers," she said. "They're living life on their own terms...The message is: You can do the same thing."

A comic book shop in New York City spotted a commercial opportunity, a chance for some nice publicity, according to LifeSiteNews.

They decided to fund an all-expenses paid wedding for two lucky guys, in their comic book store.

No, I'm not making this up.

Scott Everhart, bless him, at 39 years of age, saw an opportunity of his own. He applied online to win the comic book store wedding prize—and waited to tell his partner Jason until he was asked by the store to come in for an interview.

"That's when I broke the news to [Welker] and kind of proposed at the same time," he said.

Thor Parker, social media and events director at Midtown Comics, said, "They really stood out as super fans."

After the ceremony the store sold copies of Astonishing X-Men No. 51, which features Northstar and Kyle tying the knot.

(Same-sex weddings are becoming commonplace in comic books, from Archie to X-Men. Batwoman—originally a love interest for Batman—has become a lesbian.)

Why am I telling you this story? I don't know Scott or Jason and I wish them both well.

But something is wrong when huge companies push gay marriage into children's literature in order to make money. Something is wrong when a comic book store decides to host a wedding, again for commercial purposes. And something is really wrong when a man proposes because, well, somebody else is going to help pay for the wedding and it might mean a cool trip to New York City.

Somewhere there may be some foolish man and woman getting married in a comic book store. But nobody else is paying for it and nobody in the media is covering it.

Are we really supposed to believe in the "sanctity" of gay comic book weddings?

The promotion of gay marriage continues apace.

But so do more hopeful cultural evolutions.

The Southern Baptist Convention elected its first African-American president, the Reverend Fred Luter, Jr.

This is huge.

The Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) is the largest Protestant body in the United States and the world's largest Baptist denomination. With over 16 million members, it is also the second largest Christian denomination in the United States, after the Catholic Church.

The SBC was formed in 1845 in Augusta, Georgia following a regional split over the issue of slavery. After the civil war, black Baptists generally split off from the SBC and formed their own congregations.

Dr. Richard Land, the Oxford-educated head of the SBC's Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, reminded me a few months ago of something else about the Southern Baptist Convention: they were the first, and perhaps the only, Protestant denomination to re-form themselves along Biblical principles. (The reformers called it "the conservative resurgence" while the dissenters refer to it as the "fundamentalist takeover.")

Actually, I was at Judge Pressler's ranch this February when Dr. Land reminded me of this historic event. Judge Pressler, along with theologian Paige Patterson, launched the re-formation of the Southern Baptists along Biblical principles.

In 1995, the Convention renounced racism and apologized for its past defense of slavery and Jim Crow laws. Today about one-fifth of SBC congregations are majority non-white.

Upon his historic election, Reverend Fred Luter, Jr., told CNN's Soledad O'Brien that he will stand with the Good Book when it comes to marriage:

I'm a man of the book. I believe in the word of God. I believe in the Bible. God has specifically spoken about marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman. That's biblical. No president whether it's a president in the White House, no governor, no mayor, no one can change that. God has already established marriage between a one man and one woman. So I would stand for that because that's what the word of God says and that's what I believe in.

He went on to say, "I support my President. He is my President. I pray for him and Michelle and his daughters on a daily basis. But on this issue, the President and I have two different opinions, for sure."

 

The day after this groundbreaking, historic event the Southern Baptist Convention went on record opposing not only gay marriage, but more specifically, the conflation of gay marriage with a civil right.

Marriage is "the exclusive union of one man and one woman" and "all sexual behavior outside of marriage is sinful."

The resolution acknowledges the "unique struggles" of gay people but goes on to affirm:

It is regrettable that homosexual rights activists and those who are promoting the recognition of `same-sex marriage' have misappropriated the rhetoric of the Civil Rights Movement.

The times they are a-changing—and not always in the way progressives predict.

In Minnesota, the amazing Kalley Yanta just released a new video explaining the consequences of gay marriage that experts predict, including a "flood of litigation."

 

(The incredibly amazing Frank Schubert of Mission Public Affairs—who led the fight for Prop 8 among many other great victories—is heading up the fight in that state to pass the Marriage Protection Amendment.)

I thought about Kalley's video when I ran across a little news story—no big deal, you won't hear about this on Fox News, or from Sean Hannity or NBC. A federal lawsuit was just filed against St. Joseph's Medical Center, a Catholic hospital in Westchester, New York, because the Catholic hospital doesn't provide spousal benefits for same-sex unions. It's yet another lawsuit challenging DOMA, the federal Defense of Marriage Act. Religious charities, who do good work and are now facing litigation threats, are just collateral damage to gay rights activists intent on using the law to impose their vision of "equality." It quickly becomes clear, like in George Orwell's famous dystopian novel Animal Farm, that some are more equal than others.

"I remember almost a year ago when this bill was signed into law, we were told that it would have no impact on religious freedoms," my friend the Rev. Jason McGuire, executive director of New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms told Citizen Link. "Less than a year later it's very clear that gay marriage is indeed having an impact on religious freedom here in the Empire State."

St. Joseph's Medical Center's insurance plan is self-financed, which means it falls under federal law rather than the laws of New York State. Catholic hospitals self-finance in order to avoid state laws that require them to fund abortions and other acts the Catholic church considers immoral. Striking down DOMA (which protects their right to limit spousal benefits to husbands and wives) is the first step to imposing a new orthodoxy of gay "equality" on every organization in America.

I want to thank Sen. Mitch McConnell personally for speaking out against the abuse of power against nonprofits, including a suspicious attempt by the IRS to force disclosure of donors whose names are not required under federal laws. And for specifically mentioning the leak from the IRS of NOM's confidential tax documents:

The head of one national advocacy group has released documents which show that his group's confidential IRS information found its way into the hands of a staunch critic on the Left who also happens to be a co-chairman of President Obama's re-election committee. The only way this information could have been made public is if someone leaked it from inside the IRS.

Thanks Sen. Mitch McConnell, for speaking truth to power!

Let me promise you—with your help and with God's—we will not be deterred or intimidated from standing up now and forever for God's truth about marriage.

This fight, this good fight, continues. We know Who wins in the end, don't we?

Thank you for all that you have made possible—with your prayers, with your letters, with your kind words of encouragement and with your financial contributions.

GOProud Endorses Romney

The Advocate (a gay news source):

Mitt Romney received his first endorsement from a group representing gay Americans when GOProud voted to support the presumptive Republican presidential nominee Tuesday night, saying that the businessman and former Massachusetts governor brings “the experience and expertise to turn this economy around.”

In a statement, the group for gay conservatives and their allies announced it had “enthusiastically,” but not unanimously, decided to back Romney despite his support for an amendment to the U.S. Constitution that would limit marriage to the union of one man and one woman.

“GOProud is prepared to commit significant resources to help make Mitt Romney the next President of the United States,” said Lisa De Pasquale, interim GOProud board chair and former CPAC director. The group plans to have a large presence at the Republican National Convention this September in Tampa, where it will hold the annual Homocon event.

Grisanti Could Face Close Primary Because of SSM Vote

ArtVoice:

The other GOP race to watch is the primary between incumbent State Senator Mark Grisanti and Kenmore attorneyKevin Stocker. Grisanti has been campaigning hard in the last couple months, and he can afford to do so: He has plenty of campaign money to spend, as well as an allowance of public money for printing and mailing leaflets to his constituents that all incumbent legislators enjoy. (Recently, for example, Grisanti sent out a flyer, produced and posted with Senate funds, touting his support for Roswell Park Cancer Institute. It looked and read like a piece of campaign literature, though such publicly funded mailings are meant to be informational rather than promotional.)

He has been blanketing the media with press releases about the bills he’s sponsoring, co-sponsoring, and voting for; he has already aired a TV commercial. All this activity suggests that the primary between Stocker and Grisanti—who changed party affiliation from Democrat to Republican to run in 2010, and who angered many of the GOP’s conservative faithful by voting in favor of same-sex marriage—may be closer than one might expect.

Consequences of SSM: Catholic Hospital Sued For Same-Sex Benefits

Redefining marriage won't affect religious liberty? Tell that to this Catholic hospital in New York:

A lawsuit that could impact religious liberty in at least six states — and which also has implications for the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) — was filed in a federal district court in New York Tuesday.

St. Joseph’s Medical Center — a Catholic hospital in Westchester — and Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield, the private company that insures it, are the targets of a class-action lawsuit waged by an employee who was denied spousal benefits for her partner. The two women — named as Jane Doe and Jane Roe in the lawsuit — were legally married after the New York Legislature created same-sex marriage last year.

“I remember almost a year ago when this bill was signed into law, we were told that it would have no impact on religious freedoms,” said the Rev. Jason McGuire, executive director of New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms. “Less than a year later it’s very clear that gay marriage is indeed having an impact on religious freedom here in the Empire State.”

St. Joseph’s Medical Center insurance plan is self-financed, which means it falls under federal law — -i.e., DOMA — rather than the laws of New York State.

“Our clients have a right to enjoy the full benefits of marriage afforded to other married couples in New York,” said the women’s lawyer, Jeffrey Norton, “and we are determined to achieve that right for them.”

Norton told CitizenLink any business headquartered in New York — or any of the other five states which currently allow same-sex marriage — must be governed by the laws of that state. -- CitizenLink

Southern Baptists Nearly Unanimous: Gay Rights Not Civil Rights

The AP:

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A day after electing their first African-American president in a historic move that strives to erase its legacy of racism, Southern Baptists passed a resolution opposing the idea that same-sex marriage is a civil rights issue.

Thousands of delegates at the denomination's annual meeting in New Orleans on Wednesday were nearly unanimous in their support for the resolution that affirms their belief that marriage is "the exclusive union of one man and one woman" and that "all sexual behavior outside of marriage is sinful."

The nation's largest Protestant denomination is attempting to broaden its appeal beyond its traditional white Southern base. At the same time, leaders said they feel it is important to take a public stand on their opposition to same-sex marriage.

The resolution acknowledges that gays and lesbians sometimes experience "unique struggles" but declares that they lack the "distinguishing features of classes entitled to special protections."

"It is regrettable that homosexual rights activists and those who are promoting the recognition of `same-sex marriage' have misappropriated the rhetoric of the Civil Rights Movement," the resolution states.

Another resolution passed on Wednesday is intended to protect religious liberty. It includes a call for the U.S. Justice Department to cease efforts to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act and for the Obama administration to ensure that military personnel and chaplains can freely express their religious convictions about homosexuality.

Donor-Conceived Children Criticized For Wanting to Know Their Fathers

Alana, the child of a sperm donor, says that adult children who speak out about their losses in never knowing their biological origins face fierce criticism:

For children of anonymous sperm donors yearning for a connection to their biological father, the world can be an unwelcome place.

Instead of meeting compassion, many say that society treats their pain with a dismissive or even hostile attitude - a rift caused by lack of awareness as much as by the brute force of a $3.3 billion industry.

Alana, the child of a sperm donor and the activist behind AnonymousUs.org, says she realized the hard way what she was up against when she began her awareness campaign.

“I thought it would be so easy to arrive, state the obvious that children need their fathers, and everyone would be like, oh my God, thank you for reminding us!” she said in the documentary “Anonymous Father’s Day.” “But there is a huge monster of money and people desperate for children, who don’t want me to make it harder for them to buy and sell children.”

... Another hurdle, according to Alana - a women’s studies major who says she was inappropriately ridiculed as a Christian extremist because of her advocacy - is the gay and lesbian community, who see sperm donation as “the cleanest method for them to have children.” Another major demographic, she said, was “older couples with money.”

“The fact that they’re willing to spend $100,000 for a kid is—money talks, and I can’t compete with that,” she said.

Lahl said she was hopeful that the LGBT community would be won over to oppose sperm donation once they heard the stories of children conceived in this way. “If we can educate gay men on the harms of fertility drugs, on the harms of these procedures to the women that they need, and the reality of the children’s needs and children’s right to know, then I’m hopeful that we’ll win them over,” she said. --LifeSiteNews

President of Southern Baptist Convention: "I Disagree With Pres. Obama on Same-Sex Marriage"

CNN:

Reverend Fred Luter, Jr., the first African American president of Southern Baptist Convention, talks about the momentous election and gives his opinion on gay rights, same sex marriage on Starting Point with Soledad O'Brien.

When asked if his agenda will include inclusiveness of gay Americans, Rev. Luter says, “No, I’m a man of the book. I believe in the word of God. I believe in the bible. God has specifically spoken about marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s biblical. No president whether it’s a president in the White House, no governor, no mayor, no one can change that. God has already established marriage between a one man and one woman. So I would stand for that because that’s what the word of God says and that’s what I believe in.”

When CNN Anchor Soledad O’Brien asks if this view puts him in opposition to President Obama, Luter answers, “On this particular subject, yes. I support my president. He is my president. I pray for him and Michelle and his daughters on a daily basis. But on this issue, the President and I have two different opinions, for sure.”

Update -- here is video:

Southern Baptists to Vote on Resolution Opposing "Gay Rights are Civil Rights", Demanding DOMA be Defended

The Associated Press:

A day after electing their first African-American president, Southern Baptists were considering a resolution Wednesday opposing the idea that gay rights are the same as civil rights.

The resolution up for a vote at the denomination's annual meeting in New Orleans affirms Southern Baptists' beliefs that marriage is "the exclusive union of one man and one woman" and that "all sexual behavior outside of marriage is sinful."

It acknowledges that gays and lesbians sometimes experience "unique struggles" but declares that they lack the "distinguishing features of classes entitled to special protections."

"It is regrettable that homosexual rights activists and those who are promoting the recognition of 'same-sex marriage' have misappropriated the rhetoric of the Civil Rights Movement," the resolution states.

Another resolution to be considered Wednesday is intended to protect religious liberty. It includes a call for the U.S. Justice Department to cease efforts to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act and for the Obama administration to ensure that military personnel and chaplains can freely express their religious convictions about homosexuality.

Ryan Anderson on Reasoning for Marriage

Ryan Anderson at Heritage's Foundry blog writes an extensive examination of the bad reasons being used to redefine marriage:

The majority of Americans think it best to keep civil marriage as the union of a man and a woman. But a handful of judges have overruled the reasonable judgments and will of the people and their elected representatives, claiming that animus and anti-gay bigotry underlie such conclusions.

For example, Judge Joseph Tauro, a federal district court judge in Boston, when he ruled the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) unconstitutional, explained that “Congress undertook this classification for the one purpose that lies entirely outside of legislative bounds, to disadvantage a group of which it disapproves. And such a classification the Constitution clearly will not permit.”

In striking down traditional marriage laws, courts frequently appeal to the authority of social science. Consider the opinion of Judge Vaughn Walker. In the case that overturned California’s state marriage amendment Proposition 8, he included as a “finding of fact” that “children raised by gay or lesbian parents are as likely as children raised by heterosexual parents to be healthy, successful and well-adjusted. The research supporting this conclusion is accepted beyond serious debate in the field of developmental psychology.”

Only it isn’t accepted. Or, at least, it shouldn’t be. The jury is still out. That’s the message of two new peer-reviewed articles out last week in the academic journal Social Science Research. While much attention has focused on Mark Regnerus’s New Family Structures Study (NFSS), it is important not to overlook the work of Loren Marks. Marks reviewed all 59 studies that the American Psychological Association relied on when it issued a brief in 2005 embracing the conclusion that there are “no differences” in outcomes for children from same-sex parenting and traditional moms and dads.

Fortnight for Freedom Starts TOMORROW!

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Dear Marriage Supporter,

If you've read the papers lately—or especially if you're a regular reader of my weekly e-newsletter—you know the alarming and increasing pressures on people of faith. Believers forced to abandon their religious convictions when they enter the public square. Religious agencies forced to shut their doors or violate key tenets of their faith.

Whether it's Catholic Charities being forced out of the adoption business, a Christian photographer fined for declining to film a same-sex wedding ceremony, or the HHS contraceptive mandate, the challenges for religious individuals and institutions are increasing to levels not seen in decades. I hope you'll take a moment to watch this new video from our friends at CatholicVote.com, powerfully explaining what is at stake in this fight.

 

And that's why NOM is pleased to join the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops in observing a "Fortnight for Freedom," a period of prayer and public education beginning tomorrow as the Catholic Church celebrates the courage and conviction of St. Thomas More, and concluding on America's Independence Day, July 4th.

We are tremendously grateful for the leadership of Bishop Lori of Baltimore and of all the U.S. Catholic Bishops, setting aside these next two weeks to celebrate our heritage of religious liberty and educate the American people about the growing threats to our first freedom.

But religious liberty isn't just a Catholic issue—Americans from all faith traditions are joining together in this celebration of religious liberty! The Catholic Church is our nation's largest religious body, and by far the largest non-governmental provider of social services. The stakes are enormous...and all people of faith need to stand together to defend our freedom to participate in the public square as believing citizens.

HOW CAN YOU GET INVOLVED?

Here are just a few of the ways that individuals, churches and clergy across the country are coming together to celebrate and protect our religious freedoms over the next 14 days:

  • Special religious services
  • Focused prayer
  • Sermons on religious heritage and faithfulness in the face of political persecution
  • Bulletin inserts on religious liberty
  • Ringing of church bells across the nation at noon on July 4th!

I urge you to join us in celebrating the Fortnight for Freedom! Please talk to your pastor to discuss how your diocese or church can participate. And if your church isn't hosting a special event, you can go to www.Fortnight4Freedom.org to participate with other churches in your area.

Star Tribune on Middle Class Moms Staying Single By Choice

The Star Tribune:

Fewer middle-class women follow what one study calls the "success sequence" of education, work, marriage and childbearing. They may get married, but only later, and not have children. Increasingly, they are having children, but postponing the wedding.

The recession's financial stresses did nothing to slow the trend. If anything, the retreat from marriage is spreading from the least affluent Americans "into the solid middle of the middle class," according to the 2010 study, "When Marriage Disappears," by the National Marriage Project, at the University of Virginia.

Becca Bijoch, 25, feels no societal pressure to marry. "I think it's definitely different than it's ever been before, probably even in the past 10 years," said Bijoch, who works for a public relations firm in Minneapolis.

"Not feeling that pressure gives me the opportunity to focus on my career and have more great life experiences I might not be able to have if I was in a serious relationship."

...In Minnesota, almost one in three new mothers is unmarried, says the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS), up from about one in four 10 years ago. Fewer than one in five are teenagers, continuing the decline in teen births. More than 42 percent are at least 25 years old.

What's going on with marriage here reflects national trends, which show an even stronger shift, with four in 10 births to unmarried women, more than double the rate in 1970, according to the NCHS. Of these births, 60 percent are to women in their 20s.

Roll Call: GOP Rips IRS Over Abuses

Roll Call:

As evidence mounts that the IRS is more closely scrutinizing politically active nonprofit groups, Republicans on Capitol Hill have lashed out with assaults on the tax agency and fresh demands for an explanation.

The IRS may have stepped over the line this year by asking conservative groups applying for tax-exempt status to hand over the names of their donors, wrote Sen. Orrin Hatch(Utah) and 10 other Republican Senators in a letter this week to IRS Commissioner Douglas Shulman.

“Unfortunately, the public release of private donor information exposes citizens to possible harassment and intimidation by those who oppose the goals of the charitable organization,” wrote Hatch, ranking member of the Finance Committee. It’s the second letter from Hatch to Shulman on the topic this year.

The letter is the latest in a string of attacks by conservatives on and off Capitol Hill, including Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (Ky.), on initiatives that would shed more light on political spending. In a strongly worded speech last week at the American Enterprise Institute, McConnell accused President Barack Obama of creating an “enemies list” and “attempting to change the First Amendment.”

... McConnell cast the IRS as the “speech police” for sending lengthy questionnaires to “dozens of tea-party-affiliated groups” seeking tax exemptions. He also accused the agency of leaking confidential tax information, citing reports last month that a leadership PAC run by presumptive GOP presidential nominee Mitt Romney had donated $10,000 to the National Organization for Marriage, which opposes same-sex marriage.