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CPAC head organizer Davie Keene to resign in February

From Brian Fitzpatrick:

Several American Conservative Union board members have confirmed that David Keene, the chairman of the board of the ACU, is planning to resign at the group's next meeting.

… Keene is leaving ACU in a state of turmoil. The organization alienated social conservatives by permitting a homosexual activist organization, GOProud, to participate in its signature project, the annual CPAC convention. As a result, some of the best-known conservative organizations, including the Heritage Foundation, Family Research Council, American Family Association, Concerned Women for America, Media Research Center and the National Organization for Marriage are not participating in the conference this year.

Arguments for SSM in Montana begin in district court

From Local KULR:

Six same-sex Montana couples represented by the American Civil Liberties Union appeared in Helena District Court Tuesday afternoon to begin preliminary oral arguments in the case of Donaldson and Guggenheim versus the state of Montana.

… The ACLU said it is very likely that this case will wind up before the Montana Supreme Court in the next few years.

Photo: KULR Staff

Breaking: San Diego FireFighters Win Religious Liberty Case

San Diego firefighters who were subjected to harassment have just won their case against the city of San Diego, who forced them to participate in a gay pride parade in 2007.

The lead lawyer in this case was NOM California's general counsel, Charles Limandri (pictured in the suit). Congratulations, Chuck!

UPDATE: Kathleen Gilbert has the story and a quote from Chuck:

“It’s an important case because it shows that if Christian or people of faith generally are willing to stand up for their religious beliefs, and refuse to be bullied by secular agendas, that they do have rights that can and should be enforced in court,” said LiMandri. “In this case those rights were upheld.”

Photo: Earnie Grafton/Union-Tribune

Defining Parenthood Away

Lisa Belkin at the New York Times blog "Motherlode" brings to our attention two examples of parenthood being redefined before our eyes:

When Anthony Raftopol and his husband, Shawn Hargon Raftopol, had twins in April of 2008, the State of Connecticut would not allow both men’s names to appear on the birth certificates.

The children were conceived with Anthony’s sperm and a donor’s egg and carried by a gestational surrogate. The laws governing such situations vary among the 50 states, and Connecticut was one of the many that only recognized three kinds of parents: the couple whose baby is genetically related to both the mother and the father; the parent or parents who adopt; and the parents whose child is conceived through artificial insemination. In cases like the Raftopols, where one spouse sought parental status though they have no genetic link to the child, state law required them to go through the adoption process.

A second example, this one from Australia:

The gay Melbourne couple had paid an Indian surrogate to carry twins conceived with the sperm of one of the men and an unidentified egg donor. Then they asked a family court to grant full parental status to the nongenetic father. In a national first, Justice Paul Cronin did so. “In this case, the children do not have the benefit of a mother, but they have the good fortune of having two fathers,” he wrote, according to the Herald Sun newspaper.

The Judge’s conclusion?

“As a matter of law, the word ‘parent’ tends to suggest some biological connection, but … biology does not really matter; it is all about parental responsibility.”

Do we agree that biology just does not matter?

Actually, it is not outside the realm of possibility that biology may come to matter in the case of homosexual parents who desire a homosexual child:

If two homosexual men want to use in vitro fertilization to conceive a baby and then use genetics echnology to ensure the baby is also "gay," while disposing of any “straight” embryos, would the law have any ethical problems with that?

America's leading ethicist in the field of human reproduction has written a paper that argues future homosexual couples should have "the right" to do exactly that.

John A. Robertson of the University of Texas Law School is the chair of the Ethics Committee of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine and an advocate of what his book "Children of Choice" calls "procreative liberty."

In a paper for the Washington, D.C., think tank Brookings Institution, Robertson presents a futuristic scenario where advancing science and society's evolving morality could create a once only dreamed-of ethical dilemma.

What is interesting here is not the (unresolved) biological question, but Robertson’s push to extend unfettered freedom – freedom even to do to the next generation whatever we want – to its logical limit.

Robertson concludes, “By 2030 the logic of procreative freedom should recognize the right of Larry and David to use the technologies available to have the family they choose."

In other words, while the Australian Judge argued that “biology does not really matter; it is all about parental responsibility,” Robertson shows us a world where parental “responsibility” includes making biology precisely whatever we want it to be.

The question then becomes, do we have the right to do whatever we want to other human beings, so long as it is done to those human beings we decide to bring into our care?

USA Today Editorial: It’s Time to Lower Out of Wedlock Births!

An Op-Ed in USA Today says Our view on kids: When unwed births hit 41%, it's just not right:

“In 2009, 41% of children born in the USA were born to unmarried mothers (up from 5% a half-century ago). That includes 73% of non-Hispanic black children, 53% of Hispanic children and 29% of non-Hispanic white children. Those are not misprints.”

…evidence is overwhelming that children of single mothers — particularly teen mothers — suffer disproportionately high poverty rates, impaired development and low school performance.”

Husbands or Employers?

From Dr. J of NOM's Ruth Institute:

Security in the workplace is taking the place of security in marriage. I have been saying this for some time. But now, the major league self-styled feminist groups are coming right out and saying it. Women and children don’t need stability in marriage if they can have stability in employment.

CNSNews.com asked both activists if the federal government should do all it can to promote marriage between a man and a woman to ensure economic security for women. The “activists” in this quote are Terry O’Neill, president of the National Organization for Women and Heidi Hartmann, president of the Institute for Women’s Policy.

CNSNews.com asked both activists if the federal government should do all it can to promote marriage between a man and a woman to ensure economic security for women.

“Personally, no, I do not believe that and I don’t think you’ll find any of the women’s groups who are members of the National Council of Women’s Organizations advocating that position,” Hartmann told CNSNews.com at the Capitol on Friday following a National Organization for Women briefing about women’s economic security.

She continued, “If you are a woman and you’re thinking, ‘how can I maximize income for my family? Oh, I better go find a higher earning guy but the other way to help families is to equalize the earnings so that women earn as much as men.”

Hartmann cited “subsidized childcare” as a way to help women economically.

Substitute paid child care for parents’ home care, substitute employment for relationship, substitute government regulation of wages and work conditions as a substitute for marriage: All of these are substituting impersonal bureaucratic economic systems for personal human and family relationships.

And to think the Marxists used to talk about Alienation as a problem of capitalism!

Iowa panel backs putting gay marriage to a vote

The Associated Press reports:

A key House committee on Monday approved a resolution that would begin the long process of putting a gay marriage ban before voters.

The House Judiciary Committee approved the measure on a 13-8 vote, sending the measure to the full House for debate.

Earlier, a subcommittee of that panel voted 2-1 in favor of the resolution.

House Majority Leader Linda Upmeyer, R-Garner, says the full House could take up the resolution within a few days, but next week is more likely.

Republicans control the House on a 60-40 margin, and top leaders have predicted approval. Senate leaders promise to block the proposal in a chamber where Democrats are clinging to a 26-24 margin.

Critics argued that basic rights shouldn't be left to a vote of the people, while backers said voters are demanding that right.

...More than 200 people jammed the committee room to make their case to lawmakers, with both sides cheering and clapping.

“The Anonymous Us Project,” first ever story-collective for people 
involved in reproductive technologies

From the press release:

“Not all the kids are doing all right,” says Alana S., founder and curator of AnonymousUs.org, “Anonymous Us is a place for all participants in the 
fertility industry to share their own truths in a way that retains dignity 
and privacy for our loved ones, while also sharing valuable perspectives and 
life experiences.”

Benedict XVI: There "is only one marriage ... a real juridical bond between a man and a woman."

Read the Pope's statement.

Boys of Divorced Parents Face 3X Risk of Suicide

From USA Today:

“Adults who were children when their parents divorced are more likely to seriously consider suicide than adults who grew up in intact families, according to a new study.

“…Men whose parents divorced when they were children were three times more likely to seriously consider suicide (suicidal ideation) than other men. Adult daughters of divorced parents were 83% more likely to have suicidal thoughts than those whose parents stayed married.”

The new study was authored by Esme Fuller-Thompson at the University of Toronto and the full report is available online here (for a fee). From the press release:

“’The association between parental divorce and suicidal thoughts in men was unexpectedly strong, even when we adjusted for other childhood and adult stressors, socioeconomic status, depression and anxiety,’ says lead author Esme Fuller-Thomson.”

Marriage Update for 3 States, 1 Country

In Iowa: A House panel will begin hearings today on a bill that would repeal gay marriage in the state

In Maryland: Gay marriage legislation has been filed in the General Assembly

In New Hampshire: House could ask to delay effort to repeal gay marriage until 2012

And in Peru: Former President Alejandro Toledo will push for legalization of gay and lesbian civil unions if he is elected

Marching on the Right Side of History

Our friend Dr. J writes at the Public Discourse that Defenders of marriage should draw hope and courage from the pro-life movement’s success:

As an advocate of conjugal marriage, I am often told that I am on the “wrong side of History.” The justice of “marriage equality” is overwhelming; the younger generation favors it; same sex marriage is inevitable. But this analysis is false. Indeed, there is ample reason to think that the March of History storyline will be proven incorrect. The reason? We were told all these same things about abortion.

… A funny thing happened on the way to History: the people did not perform as promised. Last year, I took a group of Ruth Institute students up to the West Coast Walk for Life in San Francisco. Official estimates place the attendance at over 35,000. But I wasn’t counting. I was looking at the faces. I saw what anyone can see, if they care to look: the pro-life movement is a youth movement. [Continue reading]

A gay writer speaks frankly about redefining marriage

Gabriel Arana at the American Prospect:

On Feb. 5, I'm getting married here in the District.

This has made me look at the gay-marriage debate in a slightly different way.

… [And] as I've planned my wedding -- making lists, updating them, and re-updating them; deciding whether we're doing a first dance (we are, though our dads aren't included); and whether we want to change our names (we don't) -- I've been confronted by the numerous ways in which we are, in fact, redefining "marriage."

… In the end, we decided to write the ceremony ourselves. But once I was faced with a blank Word document, I realized that while I have written numerous political articles about why same-sex couples should be allowed to marry, I had never thought through what exactly it meant on a personal level. From a legal standpoint, the meaning is quite clear: Civil marriage confers a number of concrete privileges -- tax breaks, adoption rights, hospital visitation -- that are desirable and, in the interest of equality, shouldn't be withheld from gay couples. Socially, extending marriage rights validates gay partnerships. None of these, though, seems to touch on the real substance.

Gabriel concludes: “Ultimately, I'm still not sure what marriage "means," but Michael and I can make it up as we go along.”

British Deputy PM Clegg says Stop Preaching about Marriage

From the UK Daily Mail:

Ministers must not ‘preach’ to parents about marriage or lifestyles, Nick Clegg declared yesterday – as he signalled a new Coalition rift on the family.

In a direct challenge to David Cameron he also dismissed the Prime Minister’s cherished plan for a marriage tax break – saying that Liberal Democrat tax reforms must come first.

… His comments stand in stark contrast to the views of Mr Cameron, who has repeatedly stressed the importance of marriage. In the run-up to last year’s election he said: ‘I just think as a society, saying that marriage is a good thing and celebrating it and encouraging it, including through the tax system, is something that most societies do in Europe. It's very sensible for us to do as well.’

Happily married wife testifies polygamy is 'really amazing'

From the Province:

A polygamous mother from Utah on Wednesday agreed to lift an anonymity order and testify using her name at the polygamy trial in B.C. Supreme Court.

… To date, much of the evidence at trial has indicated that polygamy is associated with harms to individuals, families and society as a whole.

But Darger, who describes herself as an independent fundamentalist Mormon who does not belong to a church, painted a completely different picture of her life.