Monthly Archives: November 2011

Vietnam Veteran to Gov. Cuomo: Don't Question My Patriotism Because I Support Marriage

Via New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms:

Hundreds of you told Governor Andrew Cuomo, "It's not anti-American to be pro-family." You weren't the only ones, though. Asm. Daniel Burling (R-Warsaw) also sent a letter to Gov. Cuomo. In the letter, Burling tells Cuomo:

"...I am deeply concerned that you would characterize those who are opposed to same-sex marriage as 'anti-New York or anti-American.' ...It is one thing to object to someone's position on a given matter, but it is quite another to question someone's patriotism. As a US Marine Corps Vietnam Combat Veteran, I take serious umbrage to such an allegation."

You can read the letter in its entirety here [PDF].

NY Senate Leader Taking Steps To Save Sen. Grisanti, Now Vulnerable Because of SSM Flip-Flop

Actions speak louder than words, and the actions of New York Senate Leader Dean Skelos show that he's worried that Sen. Grisanti will lose re-election next November:

...Republican Senators are also reportedly cutting predominantly black churches out of Senator Mark Grisanti’s Buffalo district so the churches there can’t hurt him after his vote for same-sex “marriage”. Senate Majority Leader Dean Skelos traveled to Buffalo last month in an attempt to secure the Conservative line for Grisanti ahead of next November’s election, despite Grisanti’s flip for gay “marriage”.

Republicans are trying to have it both ways. They’re clearly more concerned with retaining their power, than in protecting the values of their base. The Democrats really aren’t any better. It isn’t new, but it isn’t right. At New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms, we're disappointed with both major political parties. They've each forgotten they’re elected to represent their constituents, not their colleagues. -- New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms

New Hampshire Citizen Argues Marriage Laws Not Motivated by Bigotry

William J. of Concord, NH writes in The Concord Monitor:

Granite Staters in any other generation would have scoffed at the idea of gay marriage. Because they were all bigots? Of course not! It's because it goes against a basic common sense truth of who we are as human beings. We are male and female, and when we come together in love, a baby can come into being. Men and women need a relationship in a lifelong pledge of faithfulness. Likewise, children need mothers and fathers.

Somewhere, I believe we all realize this is true. And besides, the vast majority of Americans do not believe in gay marriage.Whenever gay marriage comes up in state referendums, it is voted down. And after all, isn't this a democracy, where the most important issues should be decided by the people themselves?

So Much To Be Thankful For!

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Dear Marriage Supporter,

This Thanksgiving, I'm grateful to live in a country that is still free. Party bosses cannot shut down the authentic voice of a free and good people.

Benjamin Franklin was asked as he left the Constitutional convention of 1787 what form of government the leading men had given to the American people. "A republic, madam, if you can keep it," he responded.

Keeping that republic, our precious inheritance from great and good men, requires respect for the Biblical values that underlay our two century old experiment in democracy, which is undergirded by rights that come not from government but from God himself — and therefore cannot be taken away from us.

That's what "unalienable" means.

Part of that democratic process was on display last week at the presidential Thanksgiving Family Forum hosted by The Family Leader, and co-sponsored by the National Organization for Marriage and CitizenLink.

I was there, and it was really an extraordinary experience.

Six men and women who would be President of the United States gathered around a table and bared their hearts, and their minds, on issues of grave importance, including marriage.

Here's an 8-minute video of the candidates answering the question of whether and how they would protect marriage (yes, that's me asking the question!):

Brian Brown @ Thanksgiving Family Forum

And here, for those of you who want the complete experience, is the full and uncut version:

Thanksgiving Family Forum

There are some amazing moments, like Rick Santorum talking about his baby Bella, and his realization that he had been withholding his full love from her because he feared the pain of losing her. That's not something you ordinarily see.

It really is a window into the souls of the men and women seeking the honor of serving as our President. I'm very grateful to have been part of it, thanks to your help and support of the National Organization for Marriage.

This Thanksgiving, I am humbled by all the blessings a great and good God has given me — including the treasure of your support, your notes of encouragement, and your steadfastness.

The Pew Forum released a report this week highlighting the fact that NOM is one of the fasting growing "religious advocacy" organizations in the nation, as Roll Call reports:

While the economic downturn has depressed spending by such groups overall, religious lobbying has spiked in some areas while tapering off in others.

The National Organization for Marriage, for example, more than doubled its advocacy expenditures from $3.3 million in 2008 to $8.6 million in 2009, the most recent data available, the group found.

That's one amazing thing you and I and thousands of other Americans working together have accomplished here at NOM.

God bless you!

And happy Turkey Day!


Brian Brown

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Brian S. Brown
National Organization for Marriage

Obscure Gay Rights Figures to Have Place in CA History Classes

The San Diego Union-Tribune:

Often obscure, figures and events in the history of the gay rights and disabled rights movements will soon have a mandatory place in the classroom right along side Martin Luther King, Cesar Chavez and Susan B. Anthony.

... “Our history is more complete when we recognize the contributions of people from all backgrounds and walks of life,” State Superintendent of Public Instruction Tom Torlakson said after the legislation was signed into law in July.

... Overshadowed by the political and philosophical divide is the looming question: just what will be taught to whom, particularly regarding the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) community.

“That’s the million dollar question,” said Hayes, who has helped put together suggested materials for high school teachers to use as part of their ongoing lesson plans on voting rights and civil rights.

Asked about whether there will be some sort of opt-out or notification, Hayes said “that’s one of those things I’ve been trying to find out. There are a lot of questions about it.”

Parents cannot keep their children from the class based on objections to the material, according to Tom Adams, an official with the California Department of education working on implementation.

WaPo: GOP Primary Race for New Hampshire Governor Heats Up

The Washington Post's The Fix blog:

After three unsuccessful bids for office, the stars appeared to be aligning for Republican businessman Ovide Lamontagne to win the New Hampshire governorship in 2012.

He declared his gubernatorial bid back in September, just a few days before Gov. John Lynch (D) announced he would retire, a decision that reset the political calculus in the state. And, since Lamontagne lost a primary to Sen. Kelly Ayotte (R) in 2010, he has emerged as something of a conservative kingmaker in the Granite State.

But that coronation has hit a bump in the road of late. Kevin Smith, the former executive director of the conservative advocacy group Cornerstone, announced his campaign last week and there are whispers that popular Manchester Mayor Ted Gatsas will also get in the race.

Kathryn Lopez Interviews Domestic Policy Expert on The New Singleness

Kathryn Lopez of National Review interviews Jennifer A. Marshall, author of "Now and Not Yet: Making Sense of Single Life in the 21st Century" on how we are to understand the new trend of young people delaying (or giving up entirely on the idea of) marriage:

... LOPEZ: “We need to restore cultural respect for the marriage ideal,” you write. “In the meantime, the marriage aspiration is alive and well.” So what can a single 39-year-old do about it?

MARSHALL: Don’t toss out the marriage ideal just because it’s not working out personally at the moment. Don’t let the fog of cultural stereotypes cloud perceptions of men; see them individually for who they are, just as each of us women wants to be seen as a unique person. Keep articulating the challenges on the path to marriage in the wake of the feminist movement and sexual revolution; pastors, leaders, mentors, and parents have wisdom to share but need openness on our part so they can better understand today’s circumstances.

And all of us, no matter what our marital status, should seek solid ground for a sense of meaning and purpose that transcends all life’s seasons.

9th Circuit To Rule on Prop 8 and Judge Walker's Impartiality Simultaneously

Metro Weekly (a gay newspaper):

The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit will be deciding the appeal of U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker's ruling striking down Proposition 8 as unconstitutional alongside the appeal of U.S. District Court Judge James Ware's ruling denying the Proposition 8 proponents' attempt to have Walker's ruling vacated because they argued he was biased because he is gay and has a partner.

The decision was announced in a one-sentence order issued this afternoon in granting a request from the proponents that the matters be consolidated.

... With today's order, all of the questions relating to the validity and merits of the constitutionality of Proposition 8 could be decided by the Ninth Circuit in one decision, allowing for the most clean appeal possible to the U.S. Supreme Court.

The only ancillary matter still unconsolidated is the question of whether the tapes of the Proposition 8 trial conducted by Walker in January 2010 and concluded that June can be released to the media and public. The Ninth Circuit oral arguments on the appeal of that question will be held at 2:30 p.m. Pacific Time Dec. 8.

Prop 8 Lawyer: Case is Headed to the Supreme Court

The Christian Post:

Proponents and opponents of California’s Proposition 8, the amendment that essentially bans gay marriage in the state, are in a fierce legal battle. But one thing they can agree on is that the case will likely head to the U.S. Supreme Court.

Andrew Pugno, general counsel of, the official proponents of Prop. 8, told The Christian Post on Friday that yesterday’s court ruling means the voter-approved ballot initiative is not dead and that “both sides agree this case is ultimately destined for the U.S. Supreme Court.”

Proponents of California’s Prop. 8 saw a major victory Thursday when the California Supreme Court ruled they had legal standing and could continue defending the amendment.

Video of Presidential Thanksgiving Forum: Protecting Marriage and Family

Here's an 8-minute video of the candidates at the Presidential Thanksgiving Family Forum answering the question of whether and how they would protect marriage (yes, that's our own Brian Brown asking the question!):

Psychiatry Expert on the Flawed Studies Claiming Kids Don't Need a Mom & Dad

Rick Fitzgibbons, director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in West Conshohocken PA, has practiced psychiatry for 35 years. He writes in MecatorNet about the numerous studies that show children do best with a mom and dad. He also takes some space to point out the deep flaws that try to claim the opposing view:

Not surprisingly, there are scholars who oppose this weighty evidence [that children do best with a mother and father]. Two major studies published in 2010 are often cited by homosexual activists and the media. Nanette Gartrell and Henry Bos (10) and Timothy Biblarz and Judith Stacey (11) claim that children who were deliberately deprived of the benefits of gender complementarity in a home with a father and a mother suffer no psychological damage.

However, all data in the Gartell and Bos article are self-reports by the mother and the child. The mothers were aware of the political agenda of the research and this must have skewed the results. This defect in methodology severely weakens the report.

In the meta-study by Biblarz and Stacey, in 31 of the 33 studies of two parent families, it was the parents who provided the data, which consisted of subjective judgments. Once again, this created a social desirability bias because the homosexual parents knew the political agenda behind the study. Furthermore, of the 33 studies in two-person families, only two studies included men, although the title, “How does the gender of parents matter?” suggests that both men and women were fully represented.

Much of the research on same-sex couples tends to have serious methodological flaws. It is often argued that there is no evidence that children are harmed if they are raised by homosexual men. This is true, but the absence of evidence does not prove the case. It means that there is no evidence. Studies of children raised by homosexual men are rare. No studies have examined the long-term effects on adult males raised by homosexual men.

Pew Study: NOM Among Fastest-Growing "Religious Advocacy" Organizations

Roll Call:

...  among the top spenders are organizations fighting for or against abortion rights and groups that endorse traditional cultural values, according to the report by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life. The report examined direct lobbying to influence legislation and issue-oriented public policy work, offering the first detailed analysis of religious advocacy in two decades.

... While the economic downturn has depressed spending by such groups overall, religious lobbying has spiked in some areas while tapering off in others.

The National Organization for Marriage, for example, more than doubled its advocacy expenditures from $3.3 million in 2008 to $8.6 million in 2009, the most recent data available, the group found.

LifeSiteNews Editor Says Damian Goddard "Fearlessly on Fire for the Truth"

Steve Jalsevac of LifeSiteNews in Canada has kind words to say about the new spokesman for our Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance project:

I met and took part in a lengthy discussion this morning with Damian Goddard, the TV sportscaster fired for a tweet supporting hockey agent Todd Reynold’s tweet defending true marriage. Damian is impressive. He is fearlessly on fire for the truth and so naturally convincing and articulate about the issue that he has became the spokesman for the U.S.-based Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance. If you heard Damian as I did today, I have no doubt you would be as uplifted. Dynamic, young new recruits to the culture wars such as Damian are going to bring about big changes.

You have no idea how much you have done.

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Dear Marriage Supporter,

When I sit down for dinner this Thanksgiving, I will have a long list of blessings on my mind.

I'm grateful to the Lord for so many family, my country and my health are always at the top of the list.

But you know something?

This year, something else immediately comes to mind. I am incredibly appreciative of and thankful for your support.

The National Organization for Marriage is only as strong as our friends, and you have been such a strong and loyal friend and really sustains and energizes me, along with everyone who works here in defense of marriage.

I cannot begin to describe how much you have done to protect marriage from being destroyed in America.

If not for you, the anti-marriage radicals — with their rich Hollywood friends and their campaigns of violence and intimidation — would have won a long time ago.

Thanks to you, not only are we standing up to them, we are winning.

And I hope you will enable us to win one more critical victory by making an urgent tax-deductible gift to the NOM Education Fund today.

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Anything you can donate right now will help fund our high-stakes legal battle to uphold Proposition 8 in California. We've just won a key victory at the California Supreme Court, allowing the Prop 8 sponsors to defend Proposition 8 in court. This victory is crucial – it prevents Governor Jerry Brown from single-handedly vetoing the will of 7 million California voters – but it also sets us on a path that will be long and very expensive, likely culminating at the U.S. Supreme Court next year.

I recently wrote you a detailed letter explaining why this case is so critical (if the anti-marriage gang wins, it will destroy marriage not just in California, but throughout all 50 states) but so far I haven't heard back from you.

It's possible you mailed in a gift but it just hasn't been processed fully. If that's the case, as I said above, you have my profound gratitude. But I hope you will still make one urgent contribution, because we cannot afford to lose this fight.

Donate Now

We're winning at the ballot box and in legislatures nationwide, and so the activists pushing for same-sex marriage have turned to the court system. If we don't stop them, they will manipulate a small group of hand-picked judges into destroying marriage in America – forever.

And that is why, during this time of Thanksgiving, I am so incredibly grateful for your help.

But our fight continues, so please make one urgent, confidential, fully tax-deductible gift today.

Have a happy and blessed Thanksgiving!

Brian Brown

Brian S Brown

Brian S. Brown
Executive Director
NOM Education Fund

P.S. Remember, the same-sex marriage crowd has tens of millions of dollars to use, working to destroy marriage in all 50 states. And they have focused much of that money on the legal system, where they can take advantage of sympathetic hand-picked judges (instead of using the democratic process, allowing people to vote on whether or not they want to protect marriage). We are resisting their efforts to impose gay marriage on you, but legal bills mount very quickly. So please help. Your gift is completely tax-deductible and will enable us to defend marriage in the courts.

NJ Family Policy Council Points Out Overwhelming Disinterest in Civil Unions Despite Lawsuits

Reacting to a recent court case attempting to overturn marriage, they write:

A few months back, same-sex couples filed suit in New Jersey, seeking to avoid the legislative process and force same-sex “marriage” on New Jersey through the courts. This month, Judge Linda Feinberg agreed to hear their case, but only on limited grounds. Since the state constitution does not grant same-sex couples a legal right to solemnize their relationships as “marriages,” she rejected the claim that New Jersey’s same-sex couples are being denied a civil right. The case will now proceed on the grounds of whether New Jersey’s civil union law fails to provide benefits equal with marriage.

For the 57% of New Jerseyans who do not wish to see marriage eviscerated and redefined in law, Judge Feinberg’s ruling is encouraging for several reasons. Only 2.2% of New Jersey’s estimated 245,100 homosexuals have entered into civil unions since they became available in 2006. In five years, only fifteen of those 5,447 couples have filed complaints with the state’s Civil Rights Commission to claim that civil unions are unequal to marriage, and twelve of those have been resolved. So three couples are still unhappy, which means six people in New Jersey might have grounds to argue that civil unions are unequal. The rest of the homosexual population remains uninterested in entering civil unions themselves. Thus, the homosexual activists must meet a very high threshold to prove that civil unions are not carrying out the Legislature’s intentions.