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Video: No on 6 Ad: "We Will Not Be Intimidated"

Via Maryland Marriage Alliance:

"Ceci Royals a Maryland resident talks about the intolerant language of proponents of Same-sex marriage activists."

See more ads at www.StandForMarriageAmerica.com.

Baptist Convention of Maryland: Don't Be Fooled, We Support Marriage

A clarification issued by the Baptist convention of Maryland and Delaware:

Via Maryland Marriage Alliance.

Vote NO on 6 Ad: "Parents Have No Rights"

A new ad from the Maryland Marriage Alliance on what happens when same-sex marriage is legalized:

See more ads at www.StandForMarriageAmerica.com.

PMW: Pro-Referendum 74 Attack Ad Distorts What Washington Newspapers Actually Wrote

Preserve Marriage Washington calls out our opponents for their latest misleading attack ad:

In their latest television ad, “Families,” the campaign to impose same-sex marriage shows footage from Preserve Marriage Washington’s first TV spot entitled “Not About Equality,” and suggests that multiple newspapers agree that PMW’s spot was not “telling the truth about Referendum 74.” That is inaccurate.

Referring to the PMW spot’s statement, “When laws like 74 have occurred elsewhere, people who disagree have faced lawsuits, fines and punishment,” the pro-gay marriage ad displays a graphic reading, “Attacks on Referendum 74,” as the announcer intones, “The Seattle Times calls their attacks ‘unfounded,’ The Everett Herald – ‘myths,’ and The Columbian – ‘simply baseless.’” The ad continues, “There’s just no evidence that allowing marriage for same-sex couples has produced a rash of lawsuits.” The ad falsely states, “The Walla-Walla Union Bulletin says marriage matters because domestic partnerships ‘fall short’ for Washington families.”

Proponents of gay marriage wrongly imply that the newspapers were criticizing a TV spot by Preserve Marriage Washington, even though all the newspaper quotes pre-date that commercial going on the air. The traditional marriage spot did not start to run until October 11. However, The Everett Herald quote is from October 3, The Columbian quote is from September 16, the Walla-Walla Union Bulletin quote is from September 13, and The Seattle Times quotes are from February 11—more than nine months ago.

Audio: Alveda King's Ad to Maryland Voters

A new radio ad by the Maryland Marriage Alliance:

"Maryland Marriage Alliance began airing radio commercials featuring the niece of slain Civil Rights leader, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. As a minister and lifelong human rights activists, Dr. King believes that the NAACP is wrong to compare same-sex marriage to the Civil Rights movement."

New Poll Reveals Question 6 Opponents Up 10 Points in Last Month, Now in Dead Heat!

A new poll shows that we have the momentum in Maryland as well, due in part to the debut of our ads and also to the robust activism of the African-American churches!

NOM was recently able to give an additional $400,000 to help keep the ads on the air through election day.

The Baltimore Sun reports:

"A month ago, the same-sex marriage question was ahead by 10 percentage points — 49 percent to 39 percent — in an earlier Sun poll. The contest is now a dead heat in part because some African-Americans who supported the measure or were undecided are now saying no.

The numbers have moved amid television and radio commercials from the Maryland Marriage Alliance, which opposes same-sex marriage, and stepped-up efforts by pastors preaching against Question 6.

Much of the advertising is focused on African-American voters, a bloc that traditionally opposed same-sex marriage but had been warming to the idea. In late September, the Sun poll showed a majority of blacks in favor of Question 6 — evidently a high-water mark.

This time, the poll found 50 percent of black voters oppose the measure and 42 percent support it.

Yvonne Johnson, 65, of Prince George's County is among those who have decided to vote against legalization of same-sex marriage. "I'm not against gay people, she said. "I just don't think they should change what is in the Bible."

Growing opposition to the measure is not surprising, based on the experience in other states. Same-sex marriage measures have been defeated in all 32 states in which they have been on the ballot. In addition to Maryland, Maine and Washington state will also vote on legalization this fall. Minnesota has a ballot measure that would constitutionally ban same-sex marriage.

In Maryland as in other states, opponents of same-sex marriage have raised less money than supporters. Opponents say they are accustomed to being outspent during these campaigns and thus typically unleash their advertising push in the final weeks.

The new Sun poll found that 70 percent of the respondents who attend a religious service once a week are against Question 6.

"I'm a Catholic," said Laura Long, a 46-year-old Annapolitan who says she will vote no. "There are going to be some things not everybody can do," she said, saying marriage is one of them. "Leave it as religious sacrament."

This poll falls in line with the trend we are seeing in other polls as voting day approaches.

Video: Pro-Marriage Flash Mob in Le Mans, France (Viewed Over 360K Times!)

Here is video of one of the 75 pro-marriage flash mobs that took place across France earlier this month. This rally is not in a big town. The city of Le Mans has about 150,000 people. The video has already been viewed over 360,000 times on YouTube. A great reminder that pro-marriage street activism has a big impact!

The person in a bird costume has one wing with the word Dad (Papa) and one wing with the word Mom (Maman). The bird is learning to fly and to do that it needs the help of both a mom and dad:

Maggie Gallagher: To Transform the Culture Christians Must Live Up to Their Marriage Vows

Maggie Gallagher writes in Town Hall about the scandal of Dinesh D'Souza:

"...Adultery is a grave sin for Christians, but it's the sin of giving yourself a partial excusal from the sacred marriage vow -- of unilaterally taking back the gift of your body that you gave at the altar. So how exactly, from a Christian point of view, does breaking the whole vow publicly and explicitly make it better?

I could cite chapter and verse, but let me instead just cite a few examples from the studies published just this year on the harm that divorce causes.

A 2012 study in the International Journal of Public Health looked at 6,928 adults in Alameda County, Calif.. Adults whose parents divorce experienced not only “lowered well-being in adulthood,” but reduced “long-term survival.”

A 2012 study by Leslie Gordon Simons (et al.) looked at more than 2,000 college students: “Results indicate that respondents from continuously married families were more committed to marriage, and this commitment reduced the probability of risky sexual behavior.”

So Dinesh, by choosing divorce, you may not only put at risk your teen's life, health and faith in marriage -- but even her faith in God.

”Parental breakup is associated with religious decline among ... youth characterized by high levels of religious salience,” according to a March 2012 study by Melinda Lundquist Denton.

If we were really close, I would plead with D'Souza: Don't do this. Don't do this to your daughter. Don't do this to the wife of your youth. Don't do this to those former students of yours at King's College, young and idealistic and hopeful about marriage, scared and scarred by divorce."

Video: Canadians Share Their Experiences After Marriage Was Redefined

Via the Minnesota Catholic Conference:

"Panelists included The Most Reverend Terrence Prendergast, Archbishop of Ottawa, Ontario; Damian Goddard, a celebrated former sportscaster from Ontario who was fired for simply tweeting his support for traditional marriage; Phil Lees, founder of Public Education Advocates for Christian Equity; Albertos Polizogopoulos, Lawyer and Advocate, and Dr. Steve Tourloukis, a Christian parent who experienced firsthand the selective erosion of religious freedom and parental rights in the Canadian education system after the struggle to defend traditional marriage was lost."

You can view the full 30 minute video here.

This Is About Our Children...

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Dear Marriage Supporter,

With the birth of my 8th child imminent, I am reflecting a lot these days on the hopes and dreams I have for my children.

I hope they are happy and healthy, of course. And I also hope that they grow up to become men and women of strong faith, high ideals and sound principles.

I'm sure Holly Pope has similar hopes and dreams for her son, Dakota. I know she puts a lot of time and effort into teaching her son to be strong and stand up for his faith and his principles.

So you can imagine the empathy I have for Holly when I watch her and her son tell their story: as a high school freshman, Dakota was suspended from school for answering a friend's question about Christianity's teaching on homosexuality!

Click here to watch Dakota's story.

Marriage Supporter, this is the reality we are facing in the fight to defend marriage. Students are getting suspended for standing up for traditional marriage. Bullied. People are getting fired and put on leave from their jobs. Business owners are getting sued. Professional licenses are being revoked. Christian service agencies are being forcibly shut down.

This is not a live-and-let-live proposition. No, this is an all-out assault on our sacred religious and constitutional values . . . and we can't afford to lose!

Please, click here to watch our latest video chronicling the victims of the intolerance of those pushing a same-sex marriage agenda.

And if you can, please make a confidential donation to support our efforts to educate the citizens of our great nation about the consequences of legalizing same-sex marriage. We have a small window to make a dramatic impact for marriage, and thanks to a generous matching grant, every dollar raised between now and Election Day will be tripled! Please make a generous gift today!

Janet Erickson: "Men Don’t Mother"

This week on Public Discourse, Janet Erickson, assistant professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University, challenges "genderless parenting" arguments:

There’s been a strange turn of opinions about fatherhood—at least in recent public debates. Decades of research have now documented the tremendous challenges children face when they grow up without their fathers. But you would never know it by looking at some of the recent public arguments for “genderless parenting.”

So what do the decades of research on fathers say? Boys from fatherless families are twice as likely to end up in prison before age 30. Girls raised in homes without their fathers are much more likely to engage in early sexual behavior and end up pregnant as teenagers—for example, girls whose fathers left home before their daughters turned six are six times more likely to end up pregnant as teenagers. Children who grow up without married mothers and fathers are also more likely to experience depression, behavioral problems, and school expulsion.

...Canadian scholar, Andrea Doucet, has explored this question in her book Do Men Mother? Her extensive research with 118 male primary caregivers, including stay-at-home dads, led her to conclude that fathers do not “mother.” And that’s a good thing. Although mothering and fathering have much in common, there were persistent, critical differences that were important for children’s development.

To begin, fathers more often used fun and playfulness to connect with their children. No doubt, many a mother has wondered why her husband can’t seem to help himself from “tickling and tossing” their infant—while she stands beside him holding her breath in fear. And he can’t understand why all she wants to do is “coo and cuddle.” Yet as Doucet found, playfulness and fun are often critical modes of connection with children—even from infancy.

Fathers were also more likely to encourage children’s risk taking—whether on the playground, in school work, or in trying new things. While mothers typically discouraged risk-taking, fathers guided their children in deciding how much risk to take and encouraged them in it. At the same time, fathers were more attuned to developing a child’s physical, emotional, and intellectual independence—in everything from children making their own lunches and tying their own shoes to doing household chores and making academic decisions.

...Arguments for the non-essential father may reflect an effort to accept the reality that many children today grow up without their dads. But surely a more effective and compassionate approach would be to acknowledge the unique contributions of both mothers and fathers in their children’s lives, and then do what we can to ensure that becomes a reality for more children.

British Scholar Takes Up the Case for Redefining Marriage and Finds it Wanting

Julian Rivers is published widely in constitutional law, legal theory, and law and religion studies. He is Professor of Jurisprudence at the University of Bristol Law School, an editor-in-chief of the Oxford Journal of Law and Religion, and a member of the advisory board of the Ecclesiastical Law Journal.

In the current issue of Cambridge Papers, he takes up the case for redefining marriage and finds it wanting.

Here is the summary:

"The Government's proposal to introduce same-sex marriage seems to rest on reasons of equality, stability and convenience. But on closer inspection, these are respectively incomplete, speculative and negligible. As currently defined, marriage secures the equal value of men and women. It also promotes the welfare of children. By contrast, the new definition of marriage will unavoidably call into question its exclusivity, its permanence and even its sexual nature. Such an unravelling of marriage is too high a price to pay for a proposal which fulfils no practical legal need."

And here is his conclusion:

"The proposal to change the current definition of marriage depends on a sense that the man-woman criterion confers no distinctive social goods and represents an arbitrary limitation. But this is not the case. Marriage affirms the equal value of men and women, and promotes the welfare of children. Moreover, the logic of equal recognition and radical choice means that the boundaries of any new definition will be far more vulnerable. Challenges to its exclusivity, its permanence and even its sexual nature will be unavoidable. Marriage risks becoming any formalised domestic arrangement between any number of people for any length of time. On such a trajectory, marriage will eventually unravel altogether."

You can read the entire piece here.

Video: New NO on 1 Ad in Maine: "Local Schools"

Check out the latest video released by Protect Marriage Maine:

See all the ads playing in the four states about to decide marriage here.

National Organization for Marriage Issues Statement Regarding Remarks by Dr. Robert Anderson, Pastor, Colonial Baptist Church

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: October 26, 2012
Contact: Elizabeth Ray or Jen Campbell (703-683-5004)


WASHINGTON, D.C.—Today, Brian Brown, President of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), issued the following statement concerning remarks made by Dr. Robert Anderson, pastor of Maryland’s Colonial Baptist Church:

National Organization for Marriage

"The statement by Dr. Anderson is being mischaracterized as implying that gays and lesbians are worthy of death. Dr. Anderson meant no such thing. But just to be clear, the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) does not and has never tolerated any statement that the bible justifies any act of violence, intimidation or even incivility toward gay and lesbian individuals. NOM repudiates any statement that gays and lesbians should be subjected to any act or statement that violates their inherent human dignity as people created in the image of God. All Americans are entitled to love and respect and NOM rejects any act or statement to the contrary. NOM is also in agreement with the statement issued by Rev. Derek McCoy of the Maryland Marriage Alliance making clear that the "No on Question 6" campaign does not condone any acts or statements that violate the dignity of gays or lesbians or anyone’s human rights."

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Paid for by The National Organization for Marriage, Brian Brown, president. 2029 K Street NW, Suite 300 Washington, DC 20006, not authorized by any candidate or candidate's committee. New § 68A.405(1)(f) & (h).

From the Frontlines of the Fight for Victory, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

Dear Marriage Supporter,

In just 10 days, you can change history. You could wake up the morning after the election to watch the shocked expression on the faces of all the pundits, the politicians, the out of control judges, and see the headlines: HISTORIC NATIONAL VICTORY FOR MARRIAGE!

Just 10 days until the polls close, when America will choose. The future of our country—and also the future of marriage—could be decided for generations to come.

Nationally, Americans will choose between Mitt Romney, a pro-marriage candidate for President who will defend DOMA and appoint judges that respect our Constitutional values; or the openly pro-gay marriage incumbent, Barack Obama, who has surreptitiously undermined the legal defense of marriage for four years and who, if he gets a second term, will have the power to position a fifth vote on the Supreme Court to invent a right to gay marriage and insert it in our founding document.

In Iowa, Judge David Wiggins—the fourth of seven judges who imposed gay marriage on the people of Iowa—faces the voters.

In Maine, Washington, Maryland, and Minnesota, four blue state ballot initiatives that converge in a national referendum on marriage. Everywhere, pro-marriage forces are outspent, outgunned, and out-manned. The media is licking its chops, working overtime to predict the defeat of marriage.

Following the Anti-Marriage Money

Just this week, billionaire Bill Gates gave $500,000 for gay marriage to the referendum fight in the state of Washington. Manhattan billionaire and Mayor, Mike Bloomberg, chipped in with his $250,000 "match" gift. Proponents of gay marriage in Washington (R-74) have spent more than $9.5 million already—five times more than the whole war chest of the little band of faithful brothers and sisters at Protect Marriage Washington. They are the David in this fight against the Goliath of the gay marriage media-industrial complex—Big Business, Big Hollywood, and Big Media—who have been on the airwaves for literally months with ads.

The money advantage is only part of the story. Big media and big business are joining forces to push gay marriage like nothing I've ever seen before.

Major corporations in Washington have pooled their resources to take out a full-page ad announcing support for gay marriage. The Olympian reports:

Executives from leading Washington businesses—including iconic Northwest brands such as Costco, Nordstrom, Microsoft, REI, Amazon.com and many others—have signed onto a full page ad in this morning's Sunday Seattle Times [sic], endorsing Referendum 74's same-sex marriage law.

Nordstrom sent an email to all 58,000 employees announcing company policy supports gay marriage, and urging them to vote for R-74. (It may backfire: how many ordinary workers want our bosses instructing us how to vote in a moral matter like the definition of marriage?)

And the Seattle Times corporation upped the ante, announcing it would donate at least $90,000 in free full-page newspaper ads supporting gay marriage!

Money Talks, but Voters Talk Back!

If you and I were a conventional political movement, we would be feeling pretty overwhelmed right now, depressed and in a defensive crouch.

They can't figure out why we don't just give up fighting for marriage!

But you and I know that this is not ordinary politics. There is a Thumb on the scale of justice. Some things are more powerful than money, and this week, we are beginning to see it make miracles happen.

Yesterday, the good news started pouring in!

Just a few weeks ago, polls showed marriage down by 14 points in the state of Washington.

But yesterday the respected Elway poll released the latest figures. After just a week or so of pro-marriage TV ads, there's been an incredible swing in public opinion towards marriage!

Opposition to R-74 has leapt ten points in the last week, since opponents went up on the air with new ads crafted by Prop 8 genius Frank Schubert (who is NOM's political consultant).

Here's one of the ads motivating this change:

And then there's this one, even more powerful than the first!

So, with R-74 now at 49 to 45 percent among likely voters—a statistical dead heat and huge change from the 14 point advantage gay marriage held in September (when 53 percent of Washington voters told the pollster they would support R-74)—there is great cause for hope.

That's right: despite spending $9.5 million, and months uncontested on the airwaves, the pro-gay marriage side has not managed to move public support for gay marriage.

All Bill Gates' money and all Starbucks' alleged Seattle cache may not be enough to push gay marriage over the finish line, if—and it's a big if—pro-marriage forces have enough money to get the truth out to the American people!

The stubborn good sense of the American people on marriage has been extraordinary: Yes, live and let live, people are practically shouting from the rooftops; but don't redesign marriage!

Look for a lot of shocked pundits on election night in November....

Trouble for Wiggins in Iowa

In Iowa, a new poll shows trouble ahead for Judge David Wiggins. I was out in Iowa on the "NoWiggins" bus—with Rick Santorum, Bobby Jindal, and other leading conservative voices.

This month, a new ad crafted by Frank Schubert went up and is on the airwaves in Iowa.

And new Public Policy Polling data shows 43 percent of Iowans saying they will vote "no" to retaining Wiggins, compared to only 37 percent who would support keeping the justice on the Iowa bench.

Kudos to Iowans for Freedom for keeping up the good fight—we stand with you!

Nationally, Support for Marriage Grows While Attacks Intensify

This week, USA Today is reporting more shocking good news: The "Tastes Like Hate" boycott against Chick-fil-A has backfired, and business is up in the third quarter, shocking PR gurus across the country:

Consumer use of the chain was up 2.2% in the third quarter compared with the same period in 2011, says the Sandelman survey of more than 30,000 fast-food consumers conducted in markets where Chick-fil-A is located. Market share was up 0.6%, and total ad awareness was up a hefty 6.5%.

"Chick-fil-A did everything wrong in the book, says Chris Goddard, president of CGPR. "Their president shot from the hip, and his PR team was not equipped or prepared (to respond). It was a PR disaster and a clear case of what not to do in a crisis."

Evidently, the PR gurus don't know there's a Hand in this fight that is not bound by the conventional wisdom.

Chick-fil-A, too, seems unstoppable. "There was a lot of talk that [these boycotts] would hurt Chick-fil-A, but it actually helped the brand," says Jeff Davis, president of Sandelman. During the third quarter, Chick-fil-A broadened its regular customer base in 28 of 35 media markets, he says.

When you stand up for what is right—for God's truth about marriage—amazing miracles can happen!

The stakes are so high. Just yesterday, the New Jersey Division of Civil Rights ruled that a same-sex couple had a civil right to hold their wedding on the grounds of the Ocean Grove Camp Meeting Association, a Bible camp founded in the 19th century to host Christian revivals. Ocean Grove has lost the right to let its property for weddings, unless they are willing to treat gay union vows as equally sacred to marriage.

In New York, Liberty Ridge Farm has similarly been charged with discrimination for politely telling a lesbian couple they don't do gay weddings

Up in Maine, NOM's Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance reported this week on school counselor Don Mendell, a "Teacher of the Year" award recipient whose job was threatened when he came out against gay marriage:

And as I write, black pastors in Maryland are organizing a protest on the grounds of Gallaudet University, which suspended Dr. Angela McCaskill for doing nothing more than signing a petition to put the question of marriage to voters. [You remember, I reported last week on the outrageous attacks against McCaskill.]

The rights of all those of us who believe in Biblical standards are at risk. But we can fight back!

Out in Minnesota, a new ad running this week warns of the consequences of same-sex marriage and how it alienates parents from the process of their children's education:

How You Can Help Today

Look, I'm not going to kid you: these are tough, close fights all over—the conventional odds are overwhelmingly against us. But I promise you that victory, with God's help, is within our grasp.

Will you help? I know how tough the economy is out there. Your family and your faith community of course come first.

But if God has blessed you with the means, would you take a few minutes today to donate a few dollars to give us the tools we need to make miracles happen? A few stones, a slingshot, and faith—that's all it took for David to topple Goliath.

With your help, and by the grace of God, we can take on Bill Gates, Mayor Bloomberg, and all the other billionaires—take on Big Hollywood and Big Media. And we can win!

Because of state election laws, if you want to give to any of the four state marriage fights, you need to do so directly. To help, we've set up www.StandForMarriageAmerica.com so you can go and direct your donation to any or all of these state battles.

Meanwhile, NOM's Million Dollar Match for Marriage continues to do well. Thanks to each of you digging deep and sacrificing so generously, NOM so far has raised $564,557—or more than $1,693,000 for marriage! We are more than halfway there for our million dollar double-match challenge!

Less than 10 days to a historic victory. Thank you for all you've done to make us the national leader in the fight for marriage.

Pray, unceasingly—and keep up the good fight!