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NY Attorney: SS Couples Shouldnt Rush into Marriage

CBS New York:

“Well, I am concerned that a lot of people are going to get married because of the emotions of the day and they’re going to make mistakes,” says Hyer. “Of course, with the rewards of a contract, there’s also duties and obligations.”

He says couples need to think long and hard about getting married, and even consider a prenuptial agreement.

“Prenuptial agreements are used to, essentially, shield future spouses’ assets from the other in the event that there is a dissolution of the marriage,” Hyer tells WCBS 880 reporter Catherine Cioffi. “I think when you look at marriage, you also have to think about the exit plan. Over 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, unfortunately, in our society today. I suspect that with same sex couples, it will be the same, or who knows, even more.”

Game On! President Obama Declares War on Marriage, Federalism, and Religious Liberty – NOM Marriage News, July 2, 2011

NOM National Newsletter

LetThePeopleVote.com

Dear Marriage Supporter,

Game on!

With Senate hearings on the repeal of DOMA yesterday, President Obama and the hard-left core of the Democratic Party in Washington declared war on marriage, on federalism, on democracy and on religious liberty.

Do you think I exaggerate?

As Maggie said in National Review yesterday, the chilling of our First Amendment rights has commenced, in the name of a faux equality:

The First Amendment is more than a legal guarantee. It is a key American value—which holds that in a free society, decent, law-abiding citizens should not be afraid to speak up with civility for the moral good as they see it.

Sen. Chuck Grassley's remarkable opening statement in Wednesday's Senate DOMA hearing on a bill to repeal DOMA called attention to a very serious and growing intolerance directed at Americans who believe marriage is the union of husband and wife:

"The minority very much hoped to call a witness today at this hearing to testify in support of DOMA. I am sure she would have done an excellent job," said Sen. Grassley (R-Iowa). "She declined, however, citing as one reason the threats and intimidation that have been leveled against not only her but her family as a result of her public support for DOMA. She will continue to write on this subject, but will no longer speak publicly about it. This chilling of First Amendment rights is unacceptable."

When Chris Johnson, a reporter from the Washington Blade, called and asked if that woman was our own Maggie Gallagher, Maggie tells me she was at first amused. No, of course not. Maggie would never back down from standing up for the truth about marriage, no matter the threats, abuse, or scorn gay marriage advocates attempt to heap upon her head.

But she and I could both sympathize.

The death threats and hateful mail New York state senator Rev. Rubén Díaz says he has received are not unusual, as anyone who speaks with civility and common sense for our marriage tradition discovers. Marriage as the union of husband and wife is not bigotry, it's common sense. Nevertheless, whole professions are in the process of being closed to anyone who espouses—and acts on—the view that marriage is the union of husband and wife.

We told you last week about a Toronto sportscaster who was fired for tweeting that he believes in the "true and authentic meaning of marriage." Nothing in the First Amendment will prevent similar injustices in this country if the government adopts the view that our traditional understanding of marriage is like racial bigotry, and needs to be suppressed in the name of "equality."

Next week, NOM is flying to North Carolina to interview Frank Turek, who also had his contract with CISCO terminated, after a human resources official googled and found out he had written against same-sex marriage.

Take a moment and look into the eyes of Ruth Sheldon, a 65-year-old town clerk in the little town of Granby, New York, who resigned a job with a $32,000 a year salary plus health insurance, because New York politicians have threatened to criminally prosecute any clerk who cannot, in good conscience, sign a gay wedding license. "I'm standing on the word of God," she says. Indeed she is, with honor.

According to the Syracuse Post-Standard, Ruth lives with her husband, Robert, a retired dairy farmer, and they will celebrate their 38th wedding anniversary next month. "I know how to live on a little and I know how to live in abundance, and if I have to live on a little then that will be it," she said.

Look into the eyes of this decent, hardworking, conscientious woman, who lost her job and was threatened with criminal prosecution if she didn't license gay weddings, and ask yourself: What kind of a political movement wants to deprive a woman like this of her job and the town of Granby of her skills? What kind of government would put her in jail?

If it makes your blood boil the way it makes mine, fight back! Step one: Go to DefendDOMA.com and sign our petition! Get your friends to sign on. Gentleman may cry "peace! peace!" but there is no peace—the war on marriage has begun. Speak now, by signing NOM's DOMA petition, or face the possibility of forever after holding your peace, submitting to the political forces that seek to strip you of your right to stand for God's truth over man's.

Instead of protecting marriage and people like Ruth, the hard left—which now controls marriage law in New York and wants to control it nationwide by repealing DOMA—wants to use this law to suppress, marginalize, stigmatize and punish good, decent, law-abiding people like her.

We cannot stand by and let this happen. DefendDOMA.com is the first step, but not the last.

Maggie writes, "The underlying truth that so-called 'pro-equality' Republicans need to understand is this: They are aiding and abetting a political movement that, at this point in history, seeks to make traditional Christian views on sex and marriage unacceptable in the public square—just as racist views on interracial marriage are unacceptable—by heaping scorn and hatred on any American who does something to support marriage as one man and one woman."

Advocates of gay marriage now seek to redefine not only marriage, but the relationship between Judeo-Christian values and the American tradition. Deface our Bibles by ripping Genesis out as "bigoted" and remake an America where those who espouse Biblical views on sex and marriage are treated like racists? Just what will be left to "conserve" of the American tradition?

Do not believe the lies, or submit to the hatred.

You and I can fight back against the flood of Tim Gill's and Ken Mehlman's money which is seeking to overturn DOMA, to intimidate Bible-believing Americans, and to turn the Republican Party away from its support for marriage so that it can remake America without opposition. This cannot happen while you and I have the strength to stand up for truth, with love, for common sense and common decency.

I have faith that with your help and God's we can and will win this fight for marriage itself and for the place of Biblical values in America.

We don't have to match the zillionaires dollar for dollar, because we have three great assets on our side. We have truth, including, most crucially, God's truth about marriage. We have justice, because the ugly side of this so-called "equality" movement to redefine marriage and America is becoming more visible and harsher every day.

And we have 3,000 years of human experience, and the common sense of the majority of the American people. That common sense has been demonstrated time and time again when politicians and courts have trusted the American people—the experts on marriage—with the decision about what marriage is and should remain: a union of husband and wife, who give themselves to each other in the only kind of union that can ever make new life and connect those children to that precious gift, a mom and a dad.

Marriage is unique for a reason.

Thank you for signing our Defend DOMA petition, and sending it to a friend.

If you have the means, and can meet the other responsibilities God has given you, I need you today to reach down and donate $5, $10, or $100 today to help us fight this battle—to fight it and win!

If you've donated to NOM before, thank you. Please do so again today if God has given you the means, now that the stakes are so high and so clear.

If you have enjoyed reading this newsletter, hearing of our victories, but never paused to donate, I am asking you today to donate just $5—the price of a hamburger!—to fight back against the powerful movement which threatens to overwhelm marriage, common sense, human decency, and Biblical values, and seeks to punish good people like Ruth Sheldon who stand up for marriage.

This week, we at NOM announced the first step of an intense, multi-year $2 million campaign to take back New York—and give all the Ruth Sheldons of America back their God-given right to participate as full and equal citizens, their views and values respected in the public square.

We spent $150,000 sending "Benedict Arnold" mailers into the districts of the seven senators who flip-flopped on marriage (including four key Republicans senators).

This is the crucial first step to fulfilling our pledge to spend $2 million against the politicians who imposed same-sex marriage without a vote of the people. The politicians and the media are sitting up and taking notice!

"NOM targets 'Benedict Arnolds' of the state Senate who Voted for Gay Marriage," blared the New York Daily News headline.

"This is the first step in what will be a sustained, determined effort to make sure the constituents of these cowardly Senators know what they have done," I told the Daily News. "They decided to ignore principle and their constituents in a calculated political flip-flop only after Governor Cuomo raised $1 million from Wall Street billionaires and hedge fund managers to support the legislation. Now, some of these same Senators are raising tens of thousands of dollars in campaign cash from gay marriage activists all around the country. It's despicable."

The mailings target Republican Senators Mark Grisanti, Roy McDonald, James Alesi and Stephen Saland; and Democratic Senators Shirley Huntley, Joseph Addabbo and Carl Kruger. Why? Well, for instance:

  • Grisanti ran for office on a traditional marriage platform and solicited and accepted a $4,000 campaign contribution from NOM.
  • Alesi said "It's not our job to be moral."
  • Kruger, who has been indicted for allegedly taking $1 million in bribes in exchange for political favors, declared the Senate vote would "redefine what the American family is."

On Sunday, July 24 at 3 p.m. Maggie and I will join Sen. Rev. Rubén Díaz (D-Bronx), New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedom, and thousands of New Yorkers across the state at rallies to protest the way the New York senate hijacked marriage and ignored the will of the people. Simultaneous 3 p.m. rallies (which your donations to NOM help pay for!) in Manhattan, Albany, Rochester and Buffalo. The new coalition is called Let the People Vote!

As Sen Díaz said in his latest press release:

"In a city where teachers and public employees are being laid off, and fire houses are being closed for lack of funds, Mayor Michael Bloomberg has decided to spend city funds to have government offices open on a Sunday to perform same-sex weddings.

"Having had this bad law passed, we should not retreat in fear the way the Apostles did in the days after the crucifixion and before the resurrected Christ came to reveal himself. Instead, we need to maintain the same drive that the Apostles had after the resurrected Lord filled them with the Spirit."

Join us! 3 p.m. this Sunday, July 24, is the first step to taking back marriage in New York from corrupt Albany Republicans who sold our birthright in exchange for Ken Mehlman's and Mayor Bloomberg's cash.

Whatever your faith tradition, if you believe in limited government, in the truth about marriage, and in respect for the people's wishes, join us!

Go to LetthePeopleVote.com for more information on how to attend the New York rally.

While Pres. Obama is fighting to overturn DOMA, I don't want to forget to say thank you to Speaker John Boehner, who condemned that act as "another effort by the White House to take attention away from jobs and the president's economic policies, which have been a failure. The Defense of Marriage Act is the law of the land, and the House will continue with its effort to ensure the constitutionality of the law is determined by the courts rather than by a unilateral action by the Obama Administration."

Good men and women of every race, creed and color will join together and rise above the hate, in the true rainbow coalition, to speak truth, with love, about the purpose and meaning of marriage.

As the new Archbishop of Philadelphia, Charles Chaput, said in his very first press conference in his new position this week, "this is the issue of our time."

God bless and keep you. Remember me and all the fighters on the front lines for marriage in your prayers.

Brian Brown

Brian S Brown

Brian S. Brown
President
National Organization for Marriage

P.S. We will fight for marriage and we will win—but we need your help to do it! Can you give $20 right now to defend marriage? Or can you make a commitment to just $5 a month? If you have the means, please consider a larger donation—and know that every dollar you can spare will make a difference in this crucial time.

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A Little Note About Searching the NOM Blog Archives

We're always working to make our websites more accessible, and to that end we've re-done how you can search the NOM blog archive (in the upper-right corner above).

If you've ever tried to use the search feature and been frustrated, it might be more responsive now. It certainly should be better than scrolling through the over 2,000 posts in our archives!

Please consider this comment thread also a good place to mention features/options you'd like to see us integrate in the future! Thanks, everyone! Happy searching.

NYPost Blogger on Clerks: "If We Fail to Protect Those with Whom We Disagree, Everyone's Liberty is at Risk."

Andrea Peyser at The New York Post comes to the defense of NY clerks in danger of losing their job over same-sex marriage:

Rosemary Centi has per formed marriage ceremonies in upstate Guilderland for the past 10 years, hitching hundreds of satisfied men and women. For good, she hopes. This morning, Centi is doing her last wedding. "I am Catholic," she told me, "and my definition of marriage is between a man and a woman. It is a sacrament."

... "I have a number of friends whom I adore" who are gay, Centi told me. "I respect an individual's right to live their life however they chose to do." She paused. "So I would expect the same courtesy." And there's the rub. I was horrified to hear Gov. Cuomo react flippantly to Fotusky's resignation.

This is the law," he said last week. "When you enforce the laws of the state, you don't get to pick and choose. If you can't enforce the law, then you shouldn't be in that position."

Now, Bronx disc jockey Clifton McLaughlin, a born-again Christian, says he'll refuse, if asked, to work at gay weddings. "This is based on God's law," McLaughlin told me. "There is no way man can come with his own law."

Could he be punished? Well, yes! A gay couple denied service by a DJ, not to mention a florist or wedding band, has grounds to sue in Civil Court, a Cuomo spokesman told me.

... This is an outrage. All people -- gay and straight, atheists and observers -- have a moral duty to rise up and protest. This is about freedom.

If we fail to protect those with whom we disagree, everyone's liberty is at risk.

Here at NOM we've been helping ADF get the word out to New York clerks that yes, they do have options.

Video: Austin Nimocks of ADF Defends DOMA at Senate Hearing

Here is Mr. Austin Nimocks, Senior Counsel for the Alliance Defense Fund, testifying in defense of DOMA at yesterday's Senate Judiciary Committee hearing:

How to Handle Polygamy? Consertative Party-Run British Government Ponders Recognizing Sharia Marriages

Paul Goodman writes for The Tory Diary:

The Government may recognise polygamous shariah marriages. The suggestion is contained in a discussion paper for the Government's draft integration strategy, which is in front of me as I write.  The paper for an internal "Integration and Tolerance Working Group", titled "Creating the conditions for integration", says:

"Similarly, religious marriage is not recognised by the State unless you choose for it to be so.  This leaves an individual who enters into religious marriages unprotected if their partner enters a second or third religious marriage.  This can be remedied by requiring both religious marriages and religious divorces to be registered with civil authorities.  Likewise, there could be a duty on anyone conducting religious marriages and divorces to register with the state."

Although this language doesn't specifically cite Islamic marriages, it clearly refers to them, since no other mainstream faith allows a person to enter into more than a single marriage at one time.  Under Islamic law, a man is permitted up to four wives.

... It also labels the Catholic Church and evangelical groups "illiberal", citing gay adoption and the case of Peter and Hazelmary Bull, who refused to allow a gay couple to stay in their hotel.  It refers to "faith groups who are not consumed by ideologies that preach hatred/destruction but have conscentious beliefs that are illiberal".

William Jeynes on the Positive Economic Effect of Two-Biological-Parent Families

In The Public Discourse:

Research shows the positive economic effect of two-biological-parent families on our society. Single parenthood and other alternative family structures not only hurt our economy, they hurt our children, those who care for them, and those for whom our children will care later in life. The first in a two-part series.

... The relationship between the two-biological-parent family and economic prosperity is an immense one. As Harnish McRae observes, “the conventional family is an efficient mechanism for combining bringing up children and making a living.” There are a number of reasons why non-traditional family structures constitute such a drain on the American economy. In fact, unless this trend is reversed, the United States appears destined to lose its position as the world’s foremost economic power, a position it has enjoyed since about 1900.

Baltimore's Fighting Irish Archbishop Warns Gov. O'Malley: Push SSM and You've Picked a Fight!

LifeSiteNews:

The archbishop of Baltimore is warning Maryland Gov. Martin O’Malley that he will have a vigorous fight on his hands if he tries to legalize same-sex “marriage.” The governor had announced Friday that he is making gay “marriage” a legislative priority, following the success of gay activists in New York.

...“Government’s interest in marriage has been to promote the procreation of children, protect the best method of raising children and therefore protect society for future generations,” he said.  “There are many ways to protect basic human rights; sacrificing marriage is not one of them.”

“The successful coalition that upheld the time-honored definition of marriage in Maryland, which includes many leaders of African-American churches throughout the state, remains intact and will continue to be vigorously involved in upholding marriage in Maryland,” said the archbishop.

The Chilling of Our First Amendment Rights

The First Amendment is more than a legal guarantee. It is a culture — a key American value — which holds that in a decent and free society, law-abiding citizens should not face reprisals for speaking up with civility for the moral good as they see it.

Sen. Chuck Grassley’s remarkable opening statement in [Wednesday's] Senate hearing on a bill to repeal DOMA called attention to a very serious and growing intolerance directed at Americans who believe marriage is the union of husband and wife:

The minority very much hoped to call a witness today at this hearing to testify in support of DOMA. I am sure she would have done an excellent job.

She declined, however, citing as one reason the threats and intimidation that have been leveled against not only her but her family as a result of her public support for DOMA. She will continue to write on this subject, but will no longer speak publicly about it. This chilling of First Amendment rights is unacceptable.

When Chris Johnson, a reporter from the Washington Blade, called and asked if that woman was me, I was at first amused. No, of course not. I am not refusing to make public appearances. I was not invited this time.

But I could sympathize. I just returned from interviewing a Toronto sportscaster who was fired for tweeting that he believed “in the true and authentic meaning of marriage.” Next week, I will go to North Carolina to interview another man whose contract was terminated when the HR head of his company found out he had written against gay marriage.

The death threats and hateful mail New York state senator Rev. Ruben Diaz says he has received are not unusual. Whole professions are in the process of being closed to anyone who espouses — and acts — on the view that marriage is the union of husband and wife.

Fox News is not covering this. Conservative media outlets, except for a few beacons such as NR, are virtually silent.

The underlying truth that “pro-equality” Republicans need to understand is this: They are aiding and abetting a political movement that, at this point in history, seeks to make traditional Christian views on sex and marriage unacceptable in the public square — just as racist views on interracial marriage are unacceptable — by heaping scorn and hatred on any American who does something to support marriage as one man and one woman.

The marriage debate is about redefining not only marriage, but the relationship between Judeo-Christian values and the American tradition.

I just wonder what these “pro-equality” conservatives think will be left to conserve after that.

[This was originally posted on NRO's The Corner]

Audio: Sen. Diaz Hispanic Radio Invite -- "Come to July 24 Rallies!"

Here is the website coordinating the rallies taking place across the state of New York this weekend: LetThePeopleVote.com

Vermont Catholic Innkeepers: Honoring Our Beliefs About Marriage Isn't Discrimination

The Associated Press adds more detail to the story we posted yesterday about Catholic innkeepers in Vermont being sued by the ACLU for refusing to rent their facilities for a wedding reception of two New York women:

The lawsuit, filed by the American Civil Liberties Union's Vermont chapter on behalf of Kate Baker and Ming Linsley, said the Wildflower Inn in Lyndonville turned away the couple last fall and that at least two other same-sex couples were also refused because of the inn's owner has a "no-gay-reception policy."

... The inn's owners, Jim and Mary O'Reilly, issued a statement saying they are devout Catholics who believe in the sanctity of marriage between one man and one woman.

"We have never refused rooms or dining or employment to gays or lesbians," they wrote. "Many of our guests have been same-sex couples. We welcome and treat all people with respect and dignity. We do not however, feel that we can offer our personal services wholeheartedly to celebrate the marriage between same-sex couples because it goes against everything that we as Catholics believe in."

... "This is a discrimination case," [Josh Block, a lawyer for ACLU] said. "It would be no different if you owned a store and said we don't want to sell clothes to you or give you food or any other public accommodation. The fact that it's occurring in a new context shouldn't affect the way we think about it."

Potential Pro-DOMA Witness Intimidated from Speaking Up

Senator Chuck Grassley (R-Iowa) revealed at today's committee hearing on Democrat efforts to repeal DOMA that one of the witnesses he hoped to invite to defend DOMA was intimidated out of appearing:

"The minority very much hoped to call a witness today at this hearing to testify in support of DOMA.  I am sure she would have done an excellent job. 

She declined, however, citing as one reason the threats and intimidation that have been leveled against not only her but her family as a result of her public support for DOMA.  She will continue to write on this subject, but will no longer speak publicly about it.  This chilling of First Amendment rights is unacceptable.

There are people of good faith on both sides of this question.  They should seek to persuade each other through logic and factual evidence.  They should not resort to threats of violence or seek to silence their opponents."

Speaker Boehner Condemns President's Endorsement of Repealing DOMA

Today Senator Patrick Leahy (D-VT) held a hearing in the Senate Judiciary Committee on repealing DOMA (you can read Ed Whelan's testimony in support of DOMA here).

Simultaneously, President Obama voiced his support for this legislative effort to repeal DOMA, as Kathryn Lopez reports.

Speaker of the House John Boehner issued a statement:

This is another effort by the White House to take attention away from jobs and the president’s economic policies, which have been a failure.  The Defense of Marriage Act is the law of the land, and the House will continue with its effort to ensure the constitutionality of the law is determined by the courts rather than by a unilateral action by the Obama Administration.

Our ongoing efforts to protect DOMA continue at www.DefendDOMA.com.

Media Reacts to NOM's "Benedict Arnold" Mailer

Yesterday we announced we are spending $150,000 to send these mailers into the districts of the Republican and Democrat state senators who flipped on marriage and betrayed their constituents. Here's a round-up of the media reaction so far.

Also, don't forget to participate in our Let The People Vote rallies this Sunday - and continue to invite your friends and family!

"Faith and Values" Disappear from GOP's Website

The Daily Caller:

As Republican presidential hopefuls crisscross the country appealing to faithful conservatives for their votes, the Republican National Committee’s website no longer lists “Faith” or “Values” among its “most important issues.”

The “Faith & Values” tab on the GOP.com website disappeared during a 2009 site-redesign project. The resulting lack of online religious focus comes at a time when nearly all Republican presidential candidates are reinforcing their conservative credentials on faith and social issues.