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British Official Admits Fix is in on Same-Sex Marriage, Accuses Opponents of "Homophobia"

The UK Daily Mail asks "Where's the demand for gay marriage?":

Although the Government billed its plans for gay marriage as a ‘consultation document’, Home Office minister Lynne Featherstone left no doubt yesterday that the legislation is already a done deal.

‘The essential question is not whether we are going to introduce same-sex civil marriage, but how’, she said, adding that anyone who disagreed could be ‘fanning the flames of homophobia’.

The Prime Minister and Home Secretary are enthusiastic supporters of the plan, quite happy to trample over the vehement opposition of the mainstream churches and many grass-roots Conservatives.

...A new distinction is being made between ‘civil’ and ‘religious’ marriage, the words husband and wife are to be removed from official forms – possibly even marriage certificates – and activists already want gay weddings to be held in church.

Australian Prof. John Milbank Explains How Redefining Marriage Destroys It

John Milbank, Research Professor of Politics, Religion and Ethics at the University of Nottingham, Director of the Centre of Theology and Philosophy, and Chairman of the ResPublica Trust argues in a lengthy essay for the Australian Broadcasting Company's "Religion and Ethics" section that redefining marriage obscures the nature of marriage fundamentally and irrevocably.

Here's one of his more compelling arguments (of which he makes many):

...Increasingly, children resulting from anonymous artificial insemination are rightly demanding to know who their natural parents are - for they know that, in part, we indeed are our biology. But on the other hand, this request is in principle intolerable for donors who gave their sperm or wombs on the understanding that this was an anonymous donation for public benefit -- like blood donation properly precluding any personal involvement.

The recipe for psychological confusion, family division and social conflict involved here is all too evident and cannot be averted. In this instance we have sleep-walked into the legalisation of practices whose logic and implications have never been seriously debated.

From this it follows that we should not re-define birth as essentially artificial and disconnected from the sexual act - which by no means implies that each and every sexual act must be open to the possibility of procreation, only that the link in general should not be severed.

The price for this severance is surely the commodification of birth by the market, the quasi-eugenic control of reproduction by the state, and the corruption of the parent-child relation to one of a narcissistic self-projection.

Once the above practices have been rejected, then it follows that a gay relationship cannot qualify as a marriage in terms of its orientation to having children, because the link between an interpersonal and a natural act is entirely crucial to the definition and character of marriage.

The fact that this optimum condition cannot be fulfilled by many valid heterosexual marriages is entirely irrelevant, for they still fulfil through ideal intention this linkage, besides sustaining the union of sexual difference which is the other aspect of marriage's inherently heterosexual character.

Video: Prof. Jennifer Roback Morse Speaks in New Hampshire on the Benefits of Marriage

Via Granite Grok:

This past Monday night, Cornerstone Actionheld a lecture at St. Anselm College’s Institute of Politics that featured Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse of the Ruth Institute. The title of her talk was “Making the case for Traditional Marriage for New Hampshire“. A crowd of about 150 people filled just about every seat in the auditorium and she gave them their money’s worth with a long and idea filled discussion of the benefits to traditional marriage vs [gay] marriage.

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Fargo Woman "Marries" Herself

Tammy Swift of Inforum:

Nadine Schweigert says her wedding went so perfectly that it left her in awe.

The bride wore a long, satiny dress in peacock blue and carried a cluster of white roses. Schweigert’s best friend stood up for her. After the ceremony, guests enjoyed white wedding cake enrobed in peacock-blue fondant and New Orleans-style king cake.

The affair was missing just one, teensy detail: a groom.

In a purely symbolic ceremony, the 36-year-old “married” herself before a crowd of 45 friends and family members Saturday at Ecce Gallery in Fargo.

During the observance, the Fargo woman read her vows: “I, Nadine, promise to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self.” She presented herself with a ring and invited all guests to “blow kisses to the whole world” at the point of the traditional, bride-groom lip-lock.

“I’m very proud of it, and I feel very good about it,” says Schweigert, who works at Swanson’s Health and teaches yoga. “I’m so glad I did it.”

Schweigert views the secular ceremony as a public pronouncement that she has learned to love and accept herself as she is.

That hasn’t always been the case. The divorced mother of three says she struggled for years with self-acceptance, attending therapy groups and studying books like Melody Beattie’s “Codependent No More.”

“I was waiting for someone to come along and make me happy,” she says. “At some point, a friend said, ‘Why do you need someone to marry you to be happy? Marry yourself.’”

William Duncan's Take on Marriage Elections This Year

William Duncan at NRO's The Corner Blog takes a look at the five states voting on marriage this year:

The press is reporting the Maryland Marriage Alliance is gathering signatures to send a referendum on the same-sex marriage law just passed in the legislature to the voters. A similar petition drive is taking place in Washington, sponsored by Preserve Marriage Washington. North Carolina’s proposed marriage amendment will be voted on in May, andMinnesota’s will be on the November ballot. On the other side, same-sex marriage advocates have gathered signatures to send an initiative to the voters that would create gay marriage in Maine. The presidential election will pit a challenger who strongly supports marriage as the union of a husband and wife with a president who is actively working in the federal courts to remove that definition from federal law.

All of this adds up to a major voter referendum on the definition of marriage. Whatever happens in the presidential election, the prospect for marriage supporters is quite good. Up to this point, whenever states have put marriage amendments on the ballot, voters have approved them (though in Arizona it took two votes), and Maine voters in 2009 rejected gay marriage in a referendum. It seems likely the pro-gay-marriage campaign will focus on wild predictions of unintended consequences from the marriage amendments, though these have never materialized in other states where marriage amendments have been approved. There will also probably be a focus on the grudging “religious liberty” concessions in the Maryland, Washington, and Maine laws, though redefining marriage is going to cause cultural and legal difficulties for people of faith regardless of any legal opt outs. My guess is that voters will see these contests for what they are — an opportunity to prevent a redefinition of marriage that would eliminate the institution’s child-centered purpose.

Brooklyn Tea Party Head Issues Anti-Fidler Letter On Marriage

More news on the upcoming special election in New York via Politicker NY:

The March 20th special election to replace corrupt former State Senator Carl Kruger is less than week away, and if you read any Jewish newspapers or websites in Brooklyn, you’re probably quite aware of this.

... Mr. Storobin has his own list of Rabbinical support. On the back cover of yesterday’s edition of Hamodia, he publicized the list along with his endorsements from Congressman Bob Turner and former Mayor Rudy Giuliani. His ad additionally presented a compare-and-contrast section criticizing Mr. Fidler over abortion, gay marriage, and school vouchers.

Third party organizations are also spending some money on ads. Brooklyn Tea Party head Joseph Hayon paid for a letter against Mr. Fidler’s candidacy in yesterday’s Hamodia, and the National Organization for Marriage ran a prominent pro-Storobin ad on the cover of The Vues, both on the issue of gay marriage.

Breaking News: NH Journal Reports On Democrats Caught Staffing Group Posing as GOP-Friendly SSM Organization

We've seen this before, gay marriage activists attempting to fake more bi-partisan support for redefining marriage than actually exists. The New Hampshire Journal with the scoop:

The national gay marriage lobby group behind Standing Up for New Hampshire Families has privately used New Hampshire Democrats to volunteer and staff their activities despite posing for months as a Republican-friendly organization.

Standing Up for New Hampshire Families, which NH Journal has identified as an organization actually run out of New York and Washington, DC, has spent a tremendous amount of national money running ads designed to brand it as a Republican-leaning, pro-gay marriage organization. They have even appropriated the iconic red, white and blue Republican elephant in their advertising.

But recent e-mails obtained by NH Journal demonstrate that the manpower used to back their lobbying and allegedly grassroots efforts come exclusively from city and county Democrat organizations.

“You have to participate in either one of these phone banks tonight or Saturday,” directed James Hattan, co-chair of the Concord City Democrats to in an e-mail obtained by NH Journal. The phone banks are designed to trick Republican legislators that gay marriage has mainstream Republican support.

Similar e-mails were sent to other Democrat organizations urging them to pressure Republican lawmakers.

If you live in New Hampshire please contact your legislators and make sure they are aware of this breaking news.

Iowa Politics Blog: "Northwest Iowans Leading Pushback on Gay Marriage Ruling"

Sioux City Journal's Politically Speaking blog:

"... some conservative groups on Tuesday will again try to prod Senate Majority Leader Mike Gronstal, D-Council Bluffs, to bring a possible marriage constitutional amendment to the floor before adjournment in 2012.

Since the Iowa Supreme Court in April 2009 overturned a state law and made gay marriage legal in Iowa, many Iowans have been pushing for the Legislature to take the step of putting a traditional marriage state constitutional amendment before voters. Such a measure would have to be approved in two general assemblies, and that didn't get done in 2009-10, and likely won't advance in 2011-12 either.

Gronstal has repeatedly said he is OK with same-sex marriage reality, that he's not interested in putting "discrimination" into the state constitution via amendment.

Therefore, Bob Vander Plaats, of Sioux City, who leads The Family Leader group, and Brian Brown of the National Organization for Marriage, will speak at a marriage rally Tuesday morning at the state capitol rotunda. Vander Plaats wants people to again relay the "Let Us Vote" message to lawmakers. Red t-shirts with the LuvIowa.com logo will be in vogue among the people on hand.

Vander Plaats and other Republicans see defeating Gronstal in his re-election attempt in November 2012 as one way to remove an impediment to the constitutional amendment being aired by state legislators."

Find out more about next Tuesday's rally here on the NOMblog.

New Meme: Gay Marriage Has Lost Because Gay Activists Used the Wrong Arguments

We're seeing an interesting new meme emerge: that same-sex marriage has failed to win when voted upon by the people because gay marriage activists used the wrong arguments.

We saw it earlier in the L.A. Times story noting that gay marriage activists have chosen to significantly revise their messaging in recent years after their Prop 8 loss.

And now Beth Hawkins, writing in the Minnesota Post about the upcoming Minnesota Marriage Protection Amendment, says: "By now, same-sex marriage advocates know what doesn’t work and opponents know what does."

Does she mean we are to conclude that Americans have voted down gay marriage time and time again simply because it wasn't presented to them in the right way?

Why not go with the more obvious conclusion: voters keep voting down gay marriage because they know gay marriage is not marriage, no matter how cleverly you package or message it?

That's why NOM's message hasn't changed, because as our President Brian Brown told the L.A. Times: "You don't need sophisticated talking points to present a common-sense truth."

Another Challenger for Flip-Flopping Sen. Grisanti

YNN News:

Another well-known political figure is throwing his name in the mix for the 60th District Senate seat that's currently held by Republican Mark Grisanti.

Village of Kenmore resident Kevin Stocker has expressed interest to the Erie County Republican Party in running against Grisanti in a primary.

Stocker has campaigned unsuccessfully for several offices, most recently State Assembly in 2010. The Republican says he is disappointed in Grisanti for, in his words, continually breaking promises to voters.

"I just believe so strongly that if you give your promise about something, you can never go back on that. I'm a big believer in trust, character, integrity and you have to keep your word to people," said Stocker.

... A spokesman for Senator Grisanti says he has no comment.

A Massive Opportunity for Marriage, NOM Marriage News

NOM National Newsletter

NOM Marriage News

Dear Friend of Marriage,

The national fight to protect marriage is heating up!

Here's how the Associated Press reported it:

"Foes and supporters of same-sex marriage are gearing up for five costly and bruising statewide showdowns in the coming months on an issue that evenly divides Americans. It's an election year subplot sure to stir up heated emotions—even beyond the confines of North Carolina, Minnesota, Maryland, Maine and Washington state. National advocacy groups will be deeply engaged, and advertising is likely to surface from each side that outrages the other."

But here's how I responded:

"'It's crunch time,' said Brian Brown of the National Organization for Marriage, the paramount fundraiser for opponents of gay marriage. 'We view it as a massive opportunity for a national referendum.'"

A big challenge is also a massive opportunity. The voters of this country have been given a huge new opportunity to visibly send a message to the Supreme Court, to the pundits, and to the President: When it comes to marriage there is no red state/blue state divide. People believe marriage is the union of husband and wife.

In Washington state, Preserve Marriage Washington is out collecting signatures to put gay marriage on the ballot. Maryland Marriage Alliance is busy doing the same in Maryland. The battle for North Carolina is heating up for a May 8th vote. Minnesotans continue to organize for that state's fight.

Here's Kalley Yanta with the latest in a series of Minnesota Marriage Minutes:

 

 

I'm in Iowa next week for the well-named LUV rally (Let Us Vote!) to push for a state marriage amendment which would give Iowans the right to decide the future of marriage.

These are all tough fights, but eminently winnable. And remember, in the tough fights there is a huge opportunity—to show once again that we can stand up for what's right in this country, and win.

Our own founding Chairman of the Board, Prof. Robby George, was in federal court this week seeking a win for marriage. He is asking a judge to uphold marriage as the union of husband and wife—including the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which governs (or ought to govern) federal pension law.

In 2006, a woman named Ellyn Farley went to Canada and had a same-sex marriage ceremony. That ceremony was not legally recognized in the state where she lived at the time (Illinois), nor in Pennsylvania, where she later died of cancer. Ellyn designated her elderly mother the beneficiary of her life insurance and retirement packages, and left her partner Jennifer Tobits her Jeep, the condo they shared, and the cash in her bank account. But Tobits is now suing to take away from Farley's mother the benefits Ellyn left her, using the Canadian same-sex marriage to challenge not only Farley's last wishes, but the federal Defense of Marriage Act.

As Peter Breen, executive director of the Thomas More Society (which is representing Ellyn's mother in court) said, "The reason this case is so important is that the 3rd Circuit has not decided some of the key legal issues around same-sex marriage, relationships and DOMA."

Meanwhile, what's next for the progressives who want to raise your kids and grandkids in their morality?

If you need a little extra motivation in the face of great challenges, take a peek at this new children's book, "What Makes a Baby." It will probably be coming to a school near you soon, at least if the author has his way.

The author, Cory Silverberg, says this picture book will include information on all the (30!) ways parents can get a baby, including "a doctor, fertility clinic, adoption or foster agency; it might be a turkey baster and a friend; it might be a sperm donor or a surrogate."

According to Lifesite News, "The author intends that his 'book for kids about sex,' aimed at pre-schools through to 8-years-olds, will also be accompanied by a teacher's resource to assist its implementation in a school setting."

Pope Benedict spoke this week to the bishops of Minnesota, and North and South Dakota. He called on them to keep standing up to the secularist culture on marriage, because the issues as stake are so foundational:

"[P]articular mention must be made of the powerful political and cultural currents seeking to alter the legal definition of marriage. The Church's conscientious effort to resist this pressure calls for a reasoned defense of marriage as a natural institution consisting of a specific communion of persons, essentially rooted in the complementarity of the sexes and oriented to procreation. Sexual differences cannot be dismissed as irrelevant to the definition of marriage. Defending the institution of marriage as a social reality is ultimately a question of justice, since it entails safeguarding the good of the entire human community and the rights of parents and children alike."

The idea that we are made male and female for a reason, and called to come together in love in this thing called "marriage"—to give ourselves to one another, and to the children our unions can make—is too precious and too foundational to be surrendered without a fight!

My wife and I recently learned we have yet another reason to rejoice and to fight the good fight: We are expecting our eighth child!

Thanks for all that you've done to sustain the National Organization for Marriage in the great battle—and me personally.

Thank you for your cards, your emails, your prayers, your phone calls and your financial support.

I'm humbled and in awe of all that you've made possible.

God bless you!

Bus Driver Who Circulated UK Marriage Petition Faces Disciplinary Action

Christian Concern:

A Christian bus driver is facing disciplinary action after circulating a petition backing traditional marriage at work during his break.

Arthur McGeorge, 58, from Consett, County Durham, was approached by his manager at the Go North East bus depot and told not to bring the petition into work.

Mr McGeorge was also accused of being 'homophobic' and told to apologise for the ‘offence’ that he had caused. After refusing to back down, Mr McGeorge now faces a formal disciplinary procedure.

He said: “I’m not prepared to be told what I can discuss in my breaks.”

The petition was launched by the Coalition for Marriage, a broad based coalition which seeks to defend the current legal definition of marriage as that between a man and a woman. It has attracted more than 180,000 signatures in a matter of weeks.

Poll Shows Majority Oppose SSM in Scotland

Catholic Culture World News:

Most of Scotland’s people oppose a bid to legalize same-sex marriage, a new survey shows.

The poll of 1,004 Scottish adults, conducted by Opinion Research Business, found that 53% of respondents agreed that homosexuals “should not be allowed to redefine marriage for everyone else.” Only 36% disagreed with that statement.

The poll also showed that a huge majority—85%--believe: “It is possible to be tolerant of the rights of others and protective of traditional marriage at the same time.”

"These results demonstrate clearly that Scotland supports marriage, with an overwhelming majority believing that wherever possible every child should be raised by a mother and a father,” noted Scotland for Marriage, the group that commissioned the poll.

NOM Founding Chairman Prof. George Argues for DOMA in Pennsylvania Federal Court

NOM Founding Chairman Prof. Robert P. George is mentioned in this article defending DOMA:

The federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) came into play in a civil court case argued this week in a federal court in Pennsylvania.

Ellyn Farley was a lawyer working for a Pennsylvania-based firm before she died in 2010 of cancer. In her will, she designated her elderly mother as the beneficiary of her life insurance and retirement packages. To her lesbian partner, Jennifer Tobits, she left her Jeep, the condominium they shared, and the all the cash in her bank account.

Tobits, however, is suing Farley’s parents for the life insurance and retirement benefits, saying she is entitled to them because she and Farley had a same-sex marriage ceremony performed in Canada in 2006.

DOMA, however, means same-sex marriages performed in other countries are not recognized by federal law, including those laws that apply to retirement plans and other federal benefits. And neither Pennsylvania, where Farley’s law firm is based, nor Illinois, where the women live, have a state law redefining marriage.

...Though it’s essentially a property dispute, the case, which was argued for more than four hours Monday, brought out eight separate legal teams: One for Tobits; one for Farley’s parents; one for the law firm where Farley was employed; one each for the U.S. House of Representatives, the Frederick Douglas Foundation and Princeton University Prof. Robert George, who are defending DOMA; and one each for the Obama administration and the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), which are challenging it. -- CitizenLink

CBS: Proponents of Marriage Begin Collecting Signatures in Maryland

CBS DC:

Maryland Marriage Alliance officials announced Wednesday that they have launched the petition drive to collect the nearly 56,000 signatures needed to bring the law to referendum on the November ballot.

The group, which is leading the referendum effort, is working with mdpetitions.com, an organization and website developed last year by a Maryland delegate, to collect signatures.

Voters can visit the website and request a petition form be mailed to them.

The website uses information from state voter rolls to ensure a signer’s printed name and address will match Maryland records, a standard used by the state Board of Elections to validate the signatures.

You can get your petition at www.MarylandMarriageAlliance.com