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Monthly Archives: June 2012

AP: Church of England Formally Objects to Government Proposal to Legalize SSM

The Associated Press:

The Church of England and Roman Catholic bishops of England and Wales formally objected Tuesday to the government’s proposal to permit gay marriages, both asserting that their historic understanding is that marriage is the union of a woman and a man.

Prime Minister David Cameron is backing a proposal to permit civil marriages for gay couples, despite the strong opposition of some lawmakers in his Conservative Party. Gay couples are already allowed to have civil partnerships, with the first such ceremony in 2005.

The churches‘ responses were released on the day when the traditional marriage group Coalition for Marriage prepared to deliver a petition with more than half a million signatures opposing the change to Cameron’s office. Thursday is the deadline for public comment, which the government will consider in drafting legislation.

Complaint Against Minnesota Family Council Dismissed!

Beth Hawkins of the MinnPost reports on the final result of the spurious effort to harass the Minnesota Family Council through the campaign finance and public disclosure board:

"...Last week, the state Campaign Finance and Public Disclosure Board rejected a complaint filed in March by Common Cause of Minnesota, which claimed that MFC was violating state law by refusing to name its donors. In arriving at its conclusion, the board relied on two different dictionary definitions — one from Merriam Webster's Collegiate Dictionary, the other from the Oxford English dictionary — of the word “purpose.”

The MFC hailed the decision as the right outcome.

“We applaud the decision of the board,” CEO John Helmberger said in a statement. “The Common Cause complaint was nothing but a political stunt designed to harass donors to MFC. It is clear that MFC complied with Minnesota law and all of the CFB’s guidance and we anticipated that the CFB would reject the complaint upon completion of their analysis.”

You can read the CFPDB's published findings here.

Denmark: Mandatory SSM Ceremonies Don’t Apply to Non-Lutherans -- Yet

Catholic Culture World News:

Denmark’s minister for ecclesiastical affairs has assured the head of the nation’s sole Catholic diocese that the new law requiring churches to solemnize same-sex marriages will apply only to the official Lutheran church.

“One never knows,” cautions Bishop Czeslaw Kozon of Copenhagen. “Indeed there have been voices who suggested this law should be obligatory for everybody.”

The law permits individual ministers to refuse to conduct same-sex marriages, which have been legal in Denmark since 1997.

"I am a Gay, Devout Mormon, Happily Married to a Woman, with Three Children"

A fascinating post by a devout Mormon celebrating 10 years of marriage, co-written with his wife. Here is a sample:

7. Why do you not choose to be “true to yourself” and live the gay lifestyle?

First of all, I understand that when people refer to a “gay lifestyle” they are talking about a lifestyle that includes gay romantic and sexual relationships. But I want to point out that because I am gay, any lifestyle I choose is technically a “gay lifestyle.” Mine just looks different than other gay peoples’. My hope is that other gay people will be as accepting of my choices as they hope others would be of their choices.

But that doesn’t really answer the question. And it is an important question.

One of the sad truths about being homosexual is that no matter what you decide for your future, you have to sacrifice something. It’s very sad, but it is true. I think this is true of life in general as well. If you decide to be a doctor, you give up any of the myriad of other things you could have chosen. But with homosexuality, the choices seem to be a little bit more mutually exclusive. If you are Mormon and you choose to live your religion, you are sacrificing the ability to have a romantic relationship with a same-sex partner. If you choose a same-sex partner, you are sacrificing the ability to have a biological family with the one you love. And so on. No matter what path you choose, if you are gay you are giving up something basic, and sometimes various things that are very basic. I chose not to “live the gay lifestyle,” as it were, because I found that what I would have to give up to do so wasn’t worth the sacrifice for me.

New Study: Children Make People Happier

The National Catholic Register:

Having children makes you happier.

That’s the conclusion of a team of university researchers from the U.S. and Canada, who looked at data from thousands of couples and concluded that parents are happier than non-parents.

The study flies “directly in the face of conventional opinion,” said Catholic parenting expert Ray Guarendi.

But he worried that, with its purely naturalistic approach, the study would necessarily miss the point that religious people accept and embrace childrearing as “a gift from God.”

The researchers called their report, which was the result of three separate studies, “In Defense of Parenthood: Children Are Associated With More Joy Than Misery.”

They begin by expressing popular opinion on the subject, which is that “recent scholarly and media accounts paint a portrait of unhappy parents who find remarkably little joy in taking care of their children.”

But, when the team actually surveyed the research, they found studies on both sides of the issue, says lead researcher Katherine Nelson of the University of California, Riverside.

As for their own study, which was conducted by scholars at the University of California, Stanford University and the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Nelson said, “We all got the same findings: It was a challenge to the popular view that parents were miserable. We found parents were at least as happy and often more happy.”

Video: Are Marriage Laws "Imposing Religion on Society"?

Kalley Yanta of the Minnesota Marriage Minute explains why defining marriage in a state constitution is not the same as "imposing moral and religious views on society."

She says, "The proposed Marriage Protection Amendment doesn't impose anything, it simply puts our current law on marriage into our Constitution, so that it will be protected from activist judges or politicians bent on redefining marriage without the consent of the people."

NOM's Peters on Momentum for Marriage in Washington State

Christopher Goins of CNSNews with some quotes from our own Thomas Peters about the momentum for marriage in Washington State:

"Thomas Peters, cultural director at the National Organization for Marriage, told CNSNews.com that there's little chance that the repeal effort will lose steam. The six-month stretch between now and the election actually gives Preserve Marriage Washington more time to mount a campaign, he said.

“I don’t think there’s much question about being able to keep up energy,” Peters said. “It’s actually more time for us to organize.”

The next step for Preserve Marriage Washington is to get 100,000 volunteers signed up, says Peters.

Peters added that the experience from the signature gathering process was that Preserve Marriage Washington was able to identify “a much wider coalition in support of marriage” than the similar efforts in the past conducted on the East Coast.

Of the 32 states that have voted on the issue of marriage, all 32 have voted to preserve traditional marriage. The National Organization of Marriage says it is confident that Washington State will do likewise."

Find out how you can be part of the momentum for marriage right here!

Billionaire Paul Singer To Spend Millions More Trying to Convince GOP to Abandon Marriage

The elites vs. the people once again, as relayed by the New York Times:

"...Singer says, he’s providing $1 million to start a new “super PAC” with several Republican compatriots. Named American Unity PAC, its sole mission will be to encourage Republican candidates to support same-sex marriage, in part by helping them to feel financially shielded from any blowback from well-funded groups that oppose it.

In an interview on Tuesday, he told me that he’s confident that in Congressional races, which would most likely be the super PAC’s initial focus, there are more than a few Republicans “who could be on the verge of support” or are “harboring and hiding their views.”

“And this kind of effort could be catalytic in generating some more movement,” he said.

Singer doesn’t court a high news-media profile. His willingness to meet at the Midtown Manhattan offices of his hedge fund, Elliott Management, and talk about marriage equality reflects the strength of his commitment to the cause. Although he is straight, he has a gay son and son-in-law who were married in Massachusetts, which legalized same-sex marriage in 2004."

DumpStarbucks.com News: SSM Support NOT Key to Business Success!

Dump Starbucks

Welcome to the DumpStarbucks.com News!

Is there a business case to support Starbucks' endorsement of same-sex marriage?

The numbers say no, but same-sex marriage advocates continue to say yes. Let's look at some hard facts.

Earlier this year, ChiefExecutive.net surveyed over 650 CEOs and gathered their opinions on which states were best for business. All of the top ten states they chose define marriage as the union of one man and one woman. According to a 2008 Pew Research Center study, seven of the top ten destination states for population migration had defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman in their state constitution. In 2011, Moody's Analytics forecasted the top ten states for job growth. Nine of the top ten states for projected growth had marriage amendments in their state constitutions.

These facts and figures do not prove that defining marriage as the union of one man and one woman causes economic success, but they do show that same-sex marriage is not a requirement for economic growth or corporate success, nor a sound component of an economic development plan.

What you can do this week:

Last week a committed supporter of marriage shared hundreds of our DumpStarbucks.com flyers at the Texas GOP convention. The thousands of delegates, alternates, and their families had the opportunity to read how Starbucks as a corporation is supporting a cause they find objectionable and learn what they can do about the situation. Please consider printing a few copies of the flyer and share them with family, friends, and at public events this summer.

Our protest continues to grow!

Christian Response Alerts has launched their own boycott against Starbucks and collected over 3,300 signatures of their own. Add that to the current DumpStarbucks.com total and we have over 47,000 individuals who have Dumped Starbucks!

Thank you for your support and have a great week!

CBN Video: Black Pastors Against Obama on Marriage

Via the Christian Broadcasting Network:

Yes, that's a glimpse of NOM co-founder Maggie Gallagher up on the stage with the pastors!

Brian Brown in Rolling Stone: "Put on [the] Reality Glasses"

We love our President Brian Brown's short quote in Rolling Stone!

"...Brian Brown, the President of the National Organization for Marriage, doesn't think turnout has anything to do with it [gay marriage losing at the ballot box], and he calls "delusional" the notion of a shift in attitudes toward gay marriage. "People need to put their biases aside and put on their reality glasses," he told me. "I don't put a lot of stock in any of the polls that are out there," he said. "They're getting more and more ridiculous. Any person with common sense and a little bit of political sophistication – that hasn't bought into the mythology of the inevitability of same-sex marriage – need only look at the polling before North Carolina" and other states where it failed by ballot."

Deseret News: Studies Challenge Widely Held Assumptions About Same-Sex Parenting

Lois Collins at Deseret News reports on the new studies by Prof. Regnerus at Prof. Marks:

The oft-cited assertion that there are "no differences" in outcomes between children of same-sex parent households and those of intact biological families may not be accurate, according to a new study published today in the journal Social Science Research.

Adult children of parents who have been in same-sex relationships are different than children raised in intact biological families on a number of social, emotional and relationship measures, according to research from the University of Texas at Austin.

Among other things, they reported lower income levels, poorer mental and physical health and more troubled current romantic relationships. The study found 25 differences across 40 measures.

The research does not address why the differences exist. It doesn't predict if changing attitudes that are more accepting of same-sex relationships will mean that children growing up today with same-sex parents will one day fare better in similar analysis. It doesn't address stigma or whether the difference is not the sexual preference of the parents but rather how stable the home life was, lead investigator Mark Regnerus, associate professor of sociology at University of Texas Austin's Population Research Center, told the Deseret News.

"Nor does the study tell us that same-sex parents are necessarily bad parents," he said in a written statement. "Rather, family forms that are associated with instability or non-biological parents tend to pose risks for children as they age into adulthood."

His study does challenge long-held assertions that there are no outcome differences between children raised in intact biological families and those with same-sex parents.

The editorial board of Deseret has separately published a statement -- "In our opinion: Family structure counts".

NOM's Peters: "It's Not the Business of Corporations to Define Marriage"

NOM's Thomas Peters appeared on Register Radio last week and Tim Drake wrote up part of their conversation afterwards:

In the first half of Register Radio, Thomas Peters spoke about recent corporate efforts by corporations such as J.C. Penny's, Target, and Starbucks, to advocate for homosexuality and push for the redefinition of marriage.

"Over the last year or so, gay rights organizations have stepped up their efforts to get corporations involved," said Peters. "It's not the business of corporations to define marriage."

Peters drew attention to Starbuck's, which not only issued a public statement saying that redefining marriage is one of their "core values," but which has also filed an Amicus brief to try to get state laws protecting marriage between one man and one woman struck down.

...Asked why corporations are making these decisions, Peters said that "on the simplest level it's about money, but that the gay rights organizations are very mobilized, very wealthy, and very vocal. "Corporations are not passionately interested in the gay rights agenda. The challenge for Christians is to be as passionate about their belief that marriage is important."

In response to Starbuck's decision, Peters was involved in creating the DumpStarbucks.com boycott. 45,000 supporters have already signed the petition.

"We're sending the message that if you egregiously oppose marriage between one man and one woman and are going to use your profits and proceeds to redefine marriage, we will not support you," explained Peters. "The website also offers alternatives in your area where you can find coffee."

WaTimes: Two New Studies Counter "No Difference" Claim Between Same-Sex, Opposite-Sex Parents

The Washington Times reports on two new studies we are going to be hearing much more about in the coming days and weeks.

The first is by Prof. Mark Regnerus:

Two studies released Sunday may act like brakes on popular social-science assertions that gay parents are the same as — or maybe better than — married, mother-father parents.

“The empirical claim that no notable differences exist must go,” Mark Regnerus, a sociology professor at the University of Texas at Austin, said in his study in Social Science Research.

Using a new, “gold standard” data set of nearly 3,000 randomly selected American young adults, Mr. Regnerus looked at their lives on 40 measures of social, emotional and relationship outcomes.

He found that, when compared with adults raised in married, mother-father families, adults raised by lesbian mothers had negative outcomes in 24 of 40 categories, while adults raised by gay fathers had negative outcomes in 19 categories.

Findings such as these do not support claims that there are “no differences” between gay parenting and heterosexual, married parents, said Mr. Regnerus, who helped develop the New Family Structures Study at the university.

And a second study by Prof. Loren Marks:

The second study, also in Social Science Research, takes a critical look at the basis of an oft-cited American Psychological Association (APA) report on gay parenting.

The APA brief says, “Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents,” said Loren Marks, associate professor at the School of Human Ecology at Louisiana State University.

However, after looking at the 59 studies that undergird this assertion, “the jury is still out,” Mr. Marks said. “The lack of high-quality data leaves the most significant questions [about gay parenting] unaddressed and unanswered.”

Problems with the APA-cited studies were their tiny size; dependence on wealthy, white, well-educated lesbian mothers; and a failure to examine common outcomes for children, such as their education, employment and risks for poverty, criminality, early childbearing, substance abuse and suicide. Instead, the APA studies often looked at children’s gender-role behaviors, emotional functioning and sexual identity.

Do Children with Gay Parents Do Just As Well? The New Social-Science Debate

That's the title of NOM co-founder Maggie Gallagher's post in National Review on this topic:

Judge Vaughn Walker ruled in his decision overturning Proposition 8 that social science had disproven the idea that children benefit from being raised by their mom and dad in a marriage. The American Psychological Association has issued a proclamation to that effect, allegedly based on a neutral study of scientific evidence.

Today in the Social Science Journal, as Charles C. W. Cooke reports over on the home page, two new studies were published that challenge these assumptions and launch us into a new phase of the scientific debate.

Professor Mark Regnerus, the author of the New Family Structures Survey project, has published a study that is not only the largest and most comprehensive, it is only the second study based on a probability sample. Scientifically this is huge.

... On 25 of 40 outcome measures, adult children who reported their mother had a same-sex romantic relationship fared poorly compared to children raised by intact biological married parents. This should surprise no one. It doesn’t mean that gay parents are bad parents. Plenty of kids raised outside of intact married families do fine. Nonetheless, this new research tends to affirm that the ideal for a child is a married mom and dad.

Major family scholars such as Paul Amato, while cautioning that this should not be conclusive for policy questions such as same-sex marriage, affirm that this is an excellent study, indeed probably the best study we have to date on gay parenting.

... I’ll write more on this later. For access to the studies and to the “comments” by significant outside scholar, go here.