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Dear Marriage Supporter,

You and I know that marriage is not a partisan issue.

We are Democrats, Republicans and Independents, coming together to support something bigger than party: God's own truth about marriage.

Sadly, though, the Democrat party this week officially and formally became the party of gay marriage.

Yet, apparently still fearing public backlash over some issues, Democrat party leaders reversed the effort to strip the word "God" from the platform, and they put the word "Jerusalem" back in the party platform, to widely spread boos and catcalls from their delegates and audience during a questionable voice vote.

Still, they nevertheless unhesitatingly adopted gay marriage as core to their party platform:

Freedom to Marry. We support the right of all families to have equal respect, responsibilities, and protections under the law. We support marriage equality and support the movement to secure equal treatment under law for same-sex couples. We also support the freedom of churches and religious entities to decide how to administer marriage as a religious sacrament without government interference.

We oppose discriminatory federal and state constitutional amendments and other attempts to deny equal protection of the laws to committed same-sex couples who seek the same respect and responsibilities as other married couples. We support the full repeal of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and the passage of the Respect for Marriage Act.

Michelle Obama gave a beautiful speech about her husband at the convention this week.

But the First Lady also endorsed gay marriage--as a core civil right--as a major part of the American struggle:

… if a young preacher could lift us to the mountaintop with his righteous dream, and if proud Americans can be who they are and boldly stand at the altar with who they love, then surely, surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American Dream.

Not every Democrat is on board with the President and First Lady's program. I know from your letters and emails.

I also know because Rev. Bill Owens was at Charlotte as the conscience of the party and the nation.

Major religious leaders from the heart of the black church gathered with Rev. Owens to tell the delegates: You do not represent the whole party… and you do not represent the conscience of the nation.

 

We will not let any politician, or any party, suppress our voice!

We will stand up for marriage as the union of one man and one woman, oriented (if we want to speak of orientation!) towards the good of children.

Only marriage can give children a mom and dad united in one family!

No other union can do that — and another kind of union masquerading as marriage, but denying this essential part of its definition, is no marriage at all!

What's at stake? Well, consider Brazil: there, courts imposed gay marriage. Now, registrars are shocking the conscience of the nation by imposing polygamous unions.

The BBC is reporting that a union between three people, two women and a man, in Sao Paulo is causing major outrage.

The publication says that public notary Claudia do Nascimento Domingues, based in the city of Tupa, feels the couple is entitled to the same family rights that traditional couples have.

And, after all, why not? The principle articulated by the beautiful Michelle Obama from the Democratic party platform—'you can marry anyone you love'—has no stopping point, no core, and no rootedness in truth, especially God's truth.

God created marriage. He gave us that gift—not government.

Respecting His will and His design is what you, and I, and NOM and its allies stand for.

The fights these days grow intense. Absurd campaign finance laws prevent me from going into detail with you about the national fight for marriage now taking place deep in blue states, but in November the people of Washington, Minnesota, Maryland—and that one other blue state I can't mention legally—will decide the future of marriage in decisions that will reverberate to the Supreme Court.

Ted Olsen, who led the legal efforts challenging California's Proposition 8, is now desperately backpedalling, trying to keep the Court from reviewing his handiwork in that case. Why? Because he's afraid he will lose.

The case challenging the constitutionality of California's Proposition 8 is "an attractive vehicle" for determining "whether the States may discriminate against gay men and lesbians in the provision of marriage licenses" — but the Supreme Court should pass on the case, lawyers challenging the law say, and let stand an appeals court ruling that strikes down the 2008 amendment on narrow grounds.

But we know Who wins in the end, don't we?

Thank you for giving NOM the privilege—the absolute privilege—of being your voice for marriage.

We fight and we win because of what you have made possible.

I'm humbled and grateful for the opportunity to speak for the values we all hold dear—even more importantly, for the value God holds dear.

We will not stop. We will fight. And we will win!

Video: Coalition of African American Pastors Stands Up For Marriage at the Democratic Convention

Prop. 8 Backers Urge U.S. Supreme Court to Take Up Case

The Mercury News:

Proposition 8 backers on Wednesday asked the U.S. Supreme Court to jump into the gay marriage fray and restore California's voter-approved ban on same-sex nuptials.

In a widely expected legal move, ProtectMarriage.com urged the high court to review a federal appeals court's decision earlier this year invalidating Proposition 8. The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals declared the law unconstitutional because it stripped away the previous right of same-sex couples to marry in California.

Gay rights advocates last month asked the Supreme Court to decline the case, saying the justices should leave the 9th Circuit's ruling intact. In that brief, lawyers for same-sex couples called the 9th Circuit's ruling "straightforward" and confined to California's unique circumstances, arguing there is no need for the Supreme Court to address the broader legal questions surrounding gay marriage.

But in Wednesday's reply to that argument, Proposition 8 lawyers say same-sex marriage supporters are backing away from previous vows to win gay marriage rights in the U.S. Supreme Court.

"Plaintiffs are now contradicting themselves by urging the Supreme Court to stay out of the case and deny us all a definitive answer to the question whether the U.S. Constitution requires the legalization of same-sex marriage in California," said Andrew Pugno, Proposition 8's general counsel.

The Daily Kos adds:

The Supreme Court docket page for Hollingsworth v. Perry, the Prop 8 case, has a new notice that the case has been "DISTRIBUTED for Conference of September 24, 2012." The September 24 conference is the first time this term that the Justices will meet privately and look at petitions for certiorari to decide which cases they will accept for review. Usually, the Court announces its orders from conferences on the Monday following the conferences, however if they do take up the Prop 8 case on September 24, they could announce as early as the next day whether the full Court will review the case. It takes four votes to grant review.

If the Court denies the petition, the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals' decision stands, and Proposition 8 will be invalidated, though the case won't set a nationwide precedent. If they decide to review the case, they'll reach a final decision on the merits at the end of June 2013.

Video: Michelle Obama: Same-Sex Marriage is the New American Dream

Twice in her speech to the Democratic National Convention Michelle Obama referenced recognizing same-sex marriage as part of the American Dream:

"...[Obama] wants everyone in this country, everyone to have the same opportunity [to live the American dream] no matter who we are or where we're from or what we look like or who we love."

"...and if proud Americans can be who they are, and boldly stand at the altar with who they love, then surely surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American dream."

Video: Minnesota Woman Unafraid to Speak Up for Marriage

Colleen Simpson is confident, likeable and unafraid to speak up for marriage in Minnesota. Listen in:

Politicker: Pro-Romney Super PAC Launches Anti-Gay Marriage Ad to Snag Southern Swing State Votes

PolitickerNY:

...The “Campaign for American Values” has launched a pro-Mitt Romney television campaign with an ad warning viewers that ”Obama trying to force gay marriage on this country.”

In the commercial, which is entitled “New Morning,” a couple wakes up to coffee and the threat of legalized same sex marriage as they peruse the morning paper.

“Obama is trying to force gay marriage on this country. That’s not the change I voted for. Marriage is between a man and a woman. That’s not the change I voted for,” one of them says,

“That’s not the change I voted for either,” the other agrees.

... Opponents of President Obama may see encouraging signs they can gain votes in North Carolina by emphasizing President’s support for gay marriage. In 2008, President Obama won the Tarheel State by a slim 28,000 vote margin, becoming the first Democrat to win North Carolina since 1976. However, back in May, the day before President Obama decided to express his support for gay marriage, 61 percent of North Carolina voters backed an amendment to their state constitution banning gay marriage and civil unions. Since then, Mr. Romney has managed to claw out a thin lead in the North Carolina polls.

Doug Mainwaring on The Myth of the Same Sex Marriage Mandate

Via the Potomac Tea Party report:

... The author, Doug Mainwaring, is a principled conservative residing in Montgomery County, MD who is gay...

When did it become controversial not to support same sex marriage? And why is there now such an enormous push across our nation toward its normalization?

The national conversation about the issue of same sex marriage has been aggressively fused with the issue of gay rights. Many media commentators, politicians, and lobbyists easily conflate the two issues, promoting the notion among the general public that those who oppose same sex marriage are unsophisticated, bigoted and homophobic. This is a disingenuous impugnment: One can be completely supportive of gays while being opposed to gay marriage.

The issue of same sex marriage has been hijacked by politicians and ideologues in the interest of pursuing broader political gain.

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Prof. Robert George: Cardinal Dolan's DNC Invite Contradicts Myth that Marriage Defenders are Bigots

Prof. Robert George writes in the Wall Street Journal that the Democratic National Committee's choice to invite Cardinal Timothy Dolan to give a benediction at their convention this week makes an important point, namely:

"...Since no minimally decent political party would let a bigot or misogynist take the podium at its convention—much less bless the proceedings—accepting the cardinal's offer to appear amounts to an implicit but unmistakable concession that there's no bigotry in opposing the redefinition of civil marriage, nor any misogyny in fighting for the unborn. 

...the Democrats are, whether they like it or not, sending an implicit signal of their own. The cardinal's presence confounds efforts by the abortion-rights and gay-marriage movements to stigmatize and marginalize those who refuse to fall into line.

Some on the left fear that Cardinal Dolan will use the platform that the Democrats are providing to preach about the right to life of unborn children and the importance of preserving traditional marriage. He doesn't have to do that. He will make his point and achieve his goal just by showing up."

Zogby: "Voters Disagree With Obama's Marriage Plans"

Pollster John Zogby explains the results of his latest poll (PDF):

The poll, provided to Secrets Tuesday, is a vivid display of how American voters are split not just politically but on individual issues, making it difficult for either presidential candidate to carve out a clear path to victory. 

Take Obama's position backing same-sex marriage. Pollster John Zogby found that 51.4 percent of voters back the GOP's traditional marriage position that the "ideal family is built around a stable marriage between a man and a woman." Some 40.3 percent said "a family can still be the stable unit of a good society if it is headed by a single adult, a same-sex relationship,or grandparents."

Harris Interactive Poll: 12% of LGBTs Oppose Same-Sex Marriage

Fascinating findings from a Harris Interactive poll of 1,190 U.S. LGBT adults who are registered to vote and say they are absolutely or very certain to vote in the 2012 presidential election. Including:

12% say they oppose same-sex marriage.

Only 6% say same-sex marriage is the "most important" issue for how they will vote in the presidential election.

Of those who live in a state that has gay marriage, 67% said they have not gotten civilly married nor do they intend to in the near future.

Video: Children Raised by S-S Parents Are Worse Off Compared to Kids Raised by Traditionally Married Parents

In this latest video from the Minnesota Marriage Minute, Kalley Yanta explains:

"Gay marriage advocates have maintained for a long time that there are no differences in outcomes for children raised by same sex parents as compared with those raised by a married mom and dad but two important new academic studies show that the no differences claim is false."

Gay Protest of Christian Bakery Owner Falls Flat

Colorado Media Trackers:

A cake shop protest organized by local gay groups over the weekend turned out to be a flop, with barely a baker’s dozen worth of individuals showing up to the event.  The protest was organized after it was reported that the owner of the Masterpiece Cakeshop in Lakewood refused to bake a “rainbow-layered masterpiece” celebrating a gay couple’s upcoming nuptials.  The protest was anticipated to have a “massive” turnout.

After the gay couple described the cake that they wanted to order, bakery owner Jack Phillips told them that it was against his personal faith to supply cakes for gay weddings.  He cited principles laid out in the Bible as his reasons for refusing their request.  Phillips also made it clear that his store would never turn away anyone for being gay or lesbian and that he had no problem baking cakes for other events like birthday parties or graduations.

At the scheduled time of the protest on Saturday, approximately fourteen middle-aged men and women gathered across the street from the bakery with signs and balloons to protest the store. Standing with posters that read “Open Your Heart” and “Gays, Let Them Eat Cake,” the protest lasted for about an hour. Only five people had RSVP’ed to attend the protest on the event’s Facebook page.

... on one of the protest sites, a man named Thom Seehafter called for the use of a modified form of water-boarding to be used against the owners of the bakery.

“These business owners should have their heads held under water in a toilet,” he wrote.

Others resorted to name calling, referring to the owner as “ugly”, “anti-gay and anti-shower”, a “tool”, and claiming that he “looks like a pervert.” Some even called for “his human rights to be taken away.” Harassment techniques were also encouraged, with a plea sent around for everyone to “kick it up a notch” and to call the bakery to yell “shame on you” three times into the phone.

During the protest, a group of nearly fifty individuals, ranging from a two year old to a woman in her nineties, crowded around the store to buy cookies, cakes, and other pastries.

Three-Way Marriage Ignites Uproar in Brazil

Fox News Latino:

These days in Brazil two women are simultaneously walking down the aisle to marry the same man.

The BBC is reporting that a union between three people, two women and a man, in Sao Paulo is causing major outrage.

The publication says that public notary Claudia do Nascimento Domingues, based in the city of Tupa, feels the couple is  entitled to the same family rights that traditional couples have. She added that currently there is no law that averts the union between the threesome.

Still, religious groups are irate over the three-way marriage and Brazilian attorney Regina Beatriz Tavares da Silva told the BBC that the union is “absurd and totally illegal.”

UK Daily Mail: "Wife Whose Husband Became Secret Sperm Donor Calls for Change in the Law to Require Partners' Consent"

The UK Daily Mail:

A married woman whose husband donated sperm without her knowledge is calling for clinics to be forced to ask for a wife's consent.

The unnamed mother-of-one from Surrey said she feared that children fathered with the sperm – who would be half-brothers or sisters of her son – may one day 'disrupt' the family by getting in touch.

She has written to the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority calling for guidelines on sperm donation to include the spouse's views – and says the sperm should be treated as a joint 'marital asset'.

A controversial ruling in 2005 meant all children born through sperm donation – up to ten families are allowed per donor – have the right to trace their biological father when they reach adulthood.

In her heartfelt letter to the fertility watchdog, she told how her husband had donated sperm against her wishes after suffering Post Traumatic Stress Disorder following the birth of their child.

But if the children he fathers – to help infertile couples or single women – contacted her in the future, she would 'not feel able to push them away'.

The businesswoman said: 'I am personally in this situation with my husband having donated sperm against my wishes when he was suffering from PTSD.

Text of DNC Platform Calling for "Marriage Equality"

From the 2012 Democratic National Committee website:

Freedom to Marry. We support the right of all families to have equal respect, responsibilities, and protections under the law. We support marriage equality and support the movement to secure equal treatment under law for same-sex couples. We also support the freedom of churches and religious entities to decide how to administer marriage as a religious sacrament without government interference.

We oppose discriminatory federal and state constitutional amendments and other attempts to deny equal protection of the laws to committed same-sex couples who seek the same respect and responsibilities as other married couples. We support the full repeal of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and the passage of the Respect for Marriage Act.