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Breaking News: 9th Circuit Punts Standing to Calif Supremes

The three judge panel that heard oral arguments in the Prop 8 case on December 6th has just issued a new ruling on standing ... and it's a punt.

The 9th Circuit is asking the California Supreme Court to comment on whether proponents of an initiative have the standing to speak for the initiative under California law (here is the PDF of the order). Ed Whelan at Bench Memos has all the other links.

"We're confident Protect Marriage will win on the standing issue, and 7 million Californians will have their day in court," says Brian Brown.

(Judge Reinhardt himself says Proponents of the measure make a strong case [PDF here]. And he explicitly does not say what will happen to standing if the California Supreme Court rules Proponents do not have standing.  One thing this makes certain: delay.)

Pro-Marriage, Not Anti-Gay

Over at the Ruth Blog, Dr. J has a great post discussing her entry into the same-sex marriage debate, and how the SSM issue fits into the larger cultural dialog over marriage, its meaning and purposes:

Some of our commenters seem to be surprised that the Ruth Institute is "transitioning away from its anti-gay advocacy.. Why is there an article about abortion here?" Actually, if you look over the life of this blog, you will see a lot of discussion about abortion, contraception and artificial reproductive technology. You will also see discussions of divorce, cohabitation, out of wedlock childbearing, abstinence education, adultery, the demographic winter, what makes for a happy marriage, welfare policy and much else. The common thread is marriage: the significance of marriage to society and to children, and all the social, legal and cultural practices that affect marriage. You will see very little about homosexuality per se...

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In Spain, Tens of Thousands Rally for Marriage

Once again thousands of Spanish Catholics gathered in support of traditional marriage and values:

Martin Barillas reports:

"The [pope] referred to families as “authentic sanctuaries of fidelity, respect and understanding” that are bolstered by “genuine servants of love that receives, accompanies, and defends life.

Standing in the Plaza de Colon, on a cold Sunday morning in Madrid, the thousands of families present heard the Pope invite them via satellite transmission “to be strong in love and to contemplate with humility the Mystery of the Nativity, which continues to speak to the heart and is converted into a school of family and fraternal life.”

Photo: AP

Video: All 5 RNC candidates support marriage

Marjorie Dannenfelser of the Susan B. Anthony List posed a question to the five candidates running for head of the RNC about their views on marriage. Here are their responses:

You can view our full debate scorecard here. Here is how we rated the candidates on marriage, briefly: Saul Anuzis: A-, Rience Priebus: A-, Michael Steele: B+, Ann Wagner: B, Maria Cino: C-.

Blast from the past: Maggie debates marriage on Dr. Phil

About two years ago Dr. Phil hosted an energetic debate on the topic of marriage. Since then some of the clips have surfaced on YouTube. In this video, Maggie puts in a strong last word responding to Gavin Newsome:

In a second video from the show, Pastor Jim Garlow has a zinger response to Newsome's "same-sex marriage = interracial marriage" claim.

NOM Responds to RNC Chairman Debate

"We are grateful that all five candidates. . .unequivocally supported the GOP platform which supports our marriage tradition and opposes same-sex marriage"

- Brian Brown, President of NOM

WASHINGTON - Brian Brown, president of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) reacted to the RNC chairman debate today sponsored by the Daily Caller, Americans for Tax Reform, and the Susan B. Anthony List:

"We are grateful that all five candidates were asked their position on same-sex marriage and all five unequivocally supported the GOP platform which supports our marriage tradition and opposes same-sex marriage."

NOM's Chairman, Maggie Gallagher was also in attendance and scored the candidates answer on the marriage question.

"The RNC Chairmanship is not just a spokesperson contest. I (and NOM) fully recognize the importance of technical and fundraising competence in the decision-making of the Republican National Committee Members, and my evaluation below is not intended to be comprehensive. This scorecard only evaluates candidates' answer on the marriage question."

The question, asked of RNC Chairman candidates by SBA List president Marjorie Dannensfelser on behalf of the National Organization for Marriage, was:

"The traditional definition of marriage unites over 80 percent of Republicans. While certain Republican elites try to portray this large majority as being on the wrong side of history. Regardless of how you see your role as Chairperson, you are almost certain to be put in a position to defend traditional marriage by a member of the media. What is your best 30 second case for the defense of marriage between one man and one woman?"

NOM's Scorecard:

Michael Steele: B+

Steele called marriage "foundational to who we are as a people" and an important "ideal for family life."

"There are lots of debates about the definition of family and everyone has a different way of defining it but as a party we have said we support this ideal." When he speaks about marriage he tends to be more eloquent than the average person.

Rience Priebus: A-

Priebus was the only one who spoke to the combined issues of judicial activism, the natural basis of marriage, and the social ideal it represents for children:

"I don't believe judges can rewrite the constitution and redraft what marriage is. There is a sanctity to marriage and I agree with Michael that it is foundational in our lives, I believe children should grow up with a father and a mother if possible. Certainly we support single parents if possible. I don't believe anyone should be denied dignity, everyone should be loved, I believe that marriage should be between one woman and on man."

Ann Wagner: B.

Ann Wagner is a strong supporter of traditional marriage, highlighting her work in Missouri support the state marriage amendment. But her answer was less than ideal because rather than defending traditional marriage as a public idea, she relied on her personal life: "I live my marriage beliefs I've been faithfully and happily married for 24 years, we have 3 beautiful children, I live my family traditional values and my sanctity of marriage as I consider it a true sacrament a bond between a man and a woman taken before God and others."

We know supporters of gay marriage who could say the same.

Saul Anuzis: A-

Anuzis like Ann Wagner, has a strong record of support for marriage in his state (Michigan). He argued that marriage as a natural institution, religious but not only religious--, and noted that U.S. support for marriage is part of American exceptionalism, something that distinguishes America from Europe and much of the rest of the world.

"I think very straightforwardly marriage is both a religious and a cultural institution that has existed for over 2000 years. I think it is a natural aspect of life, and I think that marriage is between a man and a woman; and I think the family unit is very important, and actually I think that our both belief in our kind of activity to promote marriage and promote the nuclear traditional family is an important distinction that we have in America versus almost every other country in the world. [Marriage] is a religious and cultural institution that is worth protecting and worth fighting for."

Maria Cino: C-

Maria's answer was the shortest and the least content-filled. She said (and this is her total quote): "I believe in traditional marriage, that's been a big part of my faith and my family upbringing and I support the Republican platform."

We appreciate her support for marriage, but wish she could articulate a reason.

To schedule an interview with Brian Brown, President of the National Organization for Marriage, or Maggie Gallagher, Chairman of the Board, please contact Mary Beth Hutchins, [email protected] at 703-683-5004 ext. 105 or Elizabeth Ray, [email protected] at 703-683-5004 ext. 130.

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Biden's Gay Marriage Gaffe

On Bill O'Reilly's show last week,  Democratic pollster Doug Schoen responded to VP Joe Biden's strange and silly  claim that a "national consensus" is developing in favor of gay marriage.

"The only place there's a 'consensus,'" Schoen contended, "is among the hard core left of the Democratic Party.  Joe Biden was reaching out to that constituency and throwing them a bone."

Prof. Robby George Fights Back!

The debate unleashed by the essay "What is Marriage?" authored by NOM's founding chairman Princeton Prof. Robby George and two of his former students (Sherif Girgis and Ryan Anderson) in the Harvard Journal of Law and Public Policy, continues.

Here's Prof. George and colleague's second round of reply to Prof. Yoshino,

And hteir reply to Prof. Andrew Koppelman,

And their reply to  blogger Barry Deutsch.

RNC Chairman Candidate Maria Cino on Marriage

Maggie Gallagher, NOM's chairman, interviews Maria Cino--one of the serious contenders for RNC chairman--watch it here.

You can watch the whole interview by clicking here.

Help push us across the finish line!!! Last chance to take the Marriage Challenge!!!

As we quickly come to the close of 2010, we are within reach of our $1 Million Marriage Challenge goal, thanks to very generous pledges we received yesterday. By midnight tonight, we still need to raise $161,000 to fully match the Million Dollar Marriage Challenge grant.

Just think what we can do together. If we each gave just $5, we would easily reach our goal. If we each gave $10, we would break all our fundraising records and set the stage for unprecedented successes in 2011. Click here to take the marriage challenge and make your gift today!

What can 5 dollars do?

  • Buy a hamburger and fries at a fast food restaurant;
  • Buy a gallon and a half of gas;
  • Pay a fine on overdue movies or library books;

or

  • Protect marriage in 2011, ensuring that you receive all the latest marriage news and information, defend Proposition 8, identify new grassroots marriage supporters, and take the case for marriage to state legislatures across the country!

While it’s been a tough year for many, and there are many worthy organizations asking for your support this time of year, virtually all of us can afford $5 to protect marriage –most of us could afford a gift of $20, and many even $50 or more.

Whatever you can give, I’m asking each of us to step forward and join with NOM as we press forward into 2011. NOM isn’t backed by a handful of rich gay billionaires like some of our opponents are, but by tens of thousands of ordinary Americans standing together to protect marriage. And the only way we will succeed is if we all stand together. By ourselves, we can only do so much, but together with tens of thousands of our fellow Americans committed to marriage, our gifts will make a mighty impact in the coming year.

The coming year is a year filled with unprecedented opportunities, and your gift today is critical as we set out to turn those opportunities into lasting victories for marriage.

Grateful to you for standing with us in support of marriage, and wishing a Happy New Year to you and yours!

Debate: Maggie Gallagher vs. Evan Wolfson at The Economist

Join NOM Chairman Maggie Gallagher for her week-long online debate with Freedom to Marry Director Evan Wolfson. The debate starts Monday and is hosted by The Economist, which framed the motion as: “This house believes that gay marriage should be legal.” Follow the daily back-and-forth starting Monday at http://www.economist.com/debate/upcoming.

Now We're Talking (About the Marriage Issue)

The impact of the article “What Is Marriage?” in the Harvard Journal of Law and Public Policy on the gay-marriage debate continues to be profound.  Authors Sherif Girgis, Robert P. George, and Ryan T. Anderson (hereafter GG&A) issued a challenge to those who would “expand” the institution of civil marriage to include same-sex couples: answer their title question with a definition of marriage that is principled, coherent, and defensible without breaking down into the recognition of any and every sort of relationship brought forward with a claim to be recognized as a “marriage.”

So far the only answer, the only definition of marriage that meets these logically and morally compelling criteria is the one GG&A give themselves: that marriage is the comprehensive conjugal union of a man and a woman.  To say it applies to other pairs or groupings, or to male-female relations that are not comprehensive or conjugal, is to impart to marriage a definition that is self-destroying, incapable of maintaining a recognizable shape.

Two prominent gay-marriage advocates in the world of legal scholarship have stepped up to critique GG&A’s “What is Marriage?”–Kenji Yoshino of NYU law school, and Andrew Koppelman of Northwestern law school.  Yoshino, at Slate, first assayed a criticism almost completely devoid of substance, and GG&A easily rebutted him at Public Discourse.  (Yoshino has taken another stab at the issue, with the very telling concession that he “refuse[s] to answer the question ‘What is marriage?’” because the institution may in the future face even more “new challenges” to include still more relationships than those now claiming entry.)

Koppelman, for his part, writes at the Balkinization blog that he thinks Yoshino didn’t “really engage with any of [GG&A's] arguments,” and goes straight to the heart of the matter: he holds that marriage is “just a construct that has developed over time, and that therefore can be changed by human beings if that seems best.”  In other words, it has no correspondence to the nature of things, but is wholly conventional, from the bottom up.  Hence, for Koppelman, “[a] proposal to modify marriage is ontologically similar to a proposal to modify the game of chess.”  We can make it whatever we want it to be, and continue to call it “marriage” just as we could make chess indistinguishable from checkers and still call it “chess.”  Koppelman earns points for candor, but is marriage really whatever we say it is?

Today at Public Discourse, GG&A respond to Koppelman, arguing in part that “marriage isn’t a pure construct, any more than human rights are mere constructs. Both are moral realities that the state has good reasons to recognize and support.”  The whole exchange is worth reading, starting with Koppelman’s blog post.

And here’s the really good news: Girgis, George, and Anderson appear to have started an actual debate on this question, just when many on the other side of the gay marriage controversy want to shut down debate with accusations of “hate speech,” as I noted in a recent Washington Post article.  Yoshino and, especially, Koppelman, are to be commended for their civility, and for engaging in a shared attempt to come to grips, rationally, with one of the most momentous moral and legal questions facing our country today.  Both sides cannot be right–but neither side needs to be tarred with the epithet “bigots!” while the debate continues.

Source article: click here.

NOM INTERVIEWS: RNC Chairman Candidate Michael Steel on Marriage

RNC Chairman Michael Steel, who is running for re-election, answers questions about his views on marriage--watch it here:

You can watch the whole interview by clicking here.

Marriage: Real Bodily Union

by Sherif GirgisRyan T. Anderson and Robert P. George

December 30, 2010 http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2010/12/2277

A response to FamilyScholars Blogger Barry Deutsch.

Like Andrew Koppelman, Barry Deutsch has posted a critique of our recent Harvard Journal of Law and Public Policy article arguing that marriage is the conjugal union of husband and wife. And, like Koppelman, Deutsch makes central to his critique a denial that marital coition effects a true organic (bodily) union of spouses. For the reasons we set forth in our reply to Professor Koppelman, we believe his critique is unsuccessful; but no reader will doubt that Koppelman engaged our argument with intellectual and moral seriousness. We cannot, alas, say the same for Deutsch's reply. But we will respond to it without resorting to the rhetorical tactics Deutsch himself employs.

Deutsch's central problem is with the following passage in our article:

In coitus, but not in other forms of sexual contact, a man and a woman's bodies coordinate by way of their sexual organs for the common biological purpose of reproduction. They perform the first step of the complex reproductive process. Thus, their bodies become, in a strong sense, one--they are biologically united, and do not merely rub together--in coitus (and only in coitus), similarly to the way in which one's heart, lungs, and other organs form a unity: by coordinating for the biological good of the whole. In this case, the whole is made up of the man and woman as a couple, and the biological good of that whole is their reproduction.

Deutsch follows this with an analysis:

1) Individual adults are naturally incomplete with respect to sexual reproduction.
2) Reproduction can only be begun via coitus between a man and a woman.
3) Thus, during coitus, a woman and a man's bodies are biologically united and become one flesh.

How does #3 follow from #1 and #2? Answer: It doesn't.

Deutsch claims that our argument is a non sequitur because there is "no non-metaphorical sense in which the spouses become 'one flesh'" in light of the fact that "the man and the woman ... remain two separate entities," as can be confirmed by a "DNA sampling."

As most readers will have noticed, Deutsch's claim against us is itself a non sequitur.

Deutsch evidently assumed that a man and woman's common biological action cannot make them biologically united at all (that is, united in any respect), unless it makes them completely so (that is, united in every respect). But this is obviously untrue. Organic unity can be genuine without being all-encompassing:  two distinct organisms can be organically united in some respects or for some purposes while remaining separate and self-sufficient in other respects or for other purposes. Whether we are talking about humans or zebras, individual members of a mammalian species are separate and self-sufficient with respect to locomotion, digestion, respiration and most other functions. With respect to reproduction, however, individual members of the species are not self-sufficient. A male or female is half of a potential mated pair whose biological (and, as such, organic) common action--or unity--in coitus characteristically (though not on every occasion) produces offspring.

Deutsch's appeal to "DNA sampling" to "confirm" that there is "no non-metaphorical sense" in which males and females organically unite in mating is risible. Genetic identity is not what constitutes biological unity (cf. identical twins)--nor is it, as we will show, even necessary for biological unity of every meaningful sort. Elsewhere Deutsch suggests that biological unity requires being "physically joined." But physical joining just in itself can scarcely be considered a very significant kind of bodily unity, since it may well include the "unions" of animals that are tied to each other by the tails, or whose hides have been surgically attached at a point. There would be nothing metaphysically or morally significant about these instances of "physical joining."

The rest of Deutsch's posting is ostensibly an effort to find such a sense in which coitus is a real bodily union. But if he were careful, he wouldn't have had to look very far. In fact, the answer is in the very passage that he first quotes: "...they are biologically united... similarly to the way in which one's heart, lungs, and other organs form a unity: by coordinating for the biological good of the whole."

Thus, following Aristotle, we argued in our article--in the paragraph immediately preceding the one that Deutsch cites--that "our organs--our heart and stomach, for example--are parts of one body because they are coordinated, along with other parts, for a common biological purpose of the whole: our biological life. It follows that for two individuals to unite organically their bodies must be coordinated for some biological purpose of the whole." This conception clearly allows for partial biological unity, in respect of coordination toward some but not other biological purposes.

Think of a biological function in humans. Now think of the parts that are inherently oriented to playing some role in serving that function and can thus be said to be coordinated together toward its fulfillment. Our claim is that there is one meaningful sense in which the parts just mentioned enjoy a biological unity, precisely in virtue of that coordination toward fulfilling a common biological function.

If the function that you thought of was locomotion, metabolism, respiration, or one of many others, then (a) the parts that you thought of are organs within a single individual; and (b) the function in question itself plays some role in serving that individual's biological life. But if reproduction was the function you picked, then (a) the parts that you thought of are not organs in a single individual; and (b) the function in question is one that serves the biological good not of an individual, but of a male-female pair as a whole: namely, their reproduction. And coitus is the process by which such coordination toward a common biological function--such real, if limited, biological unity--is achieved.

Deutsch objects that "it's not true that every part of our body is 'coordinated'... for a common biological purpose... [namely] biological life," and cites hair, skin tags, and benign tumors. But far from disproving our point, these examples support it. For it is clear that hair, skin tags, and benign tumors--though contiguous with our bodies--are not biologically united with them in just the way that, say, a heart and lungs are. To remove tumors or skin tags (or at least some of the body's hair) has no effect on our organic functioning; that is why doing so is not mutilation. (In Deutsch's own words, "they could all be removed at no biological cost.") If there is still a sense in which they are parts of one's body--because of their contiguity with it, and so on--that just shows that there are different (more and less important) senses in which two things can be biologically united. But that is no strike against our argument, since we articulated precisely which sense we meant--and a sense that is clearly more significant than the contiguity that skin tags have as much as limbs do.

Deutsch continues:

I largely agree with George that a marriage, in nearly all cases, requires a physical, sexual union to become complete. (There may be individual couples who are exceptions, but for the overwhelming majority of couples, it will not feel like a true marriage without a sexual union.)

It is not clear what Deutsch means here. If marriage is a human good with some essential features that hold regardless of the participants, then either consummation is one such essential, or it is not. If it is, then Deutsch's second sentence is false; if it is not, then his first sentence is puzzling. If, on the other hand, Deutsch thinks that there are no essential features of marriage that hold constant across would-be spouses, then we wonder why he thinks that marriage would require even mutual commitment (much less monogamous or exclusive commitment). Why, too, would he not think that such an intrinsically malleable good would be hindered by legal recognition, which imposes certain uniform constraints on every recognized marriage?

Perhaps then Deutsch means that a certain sort of mutual pleasuring is essential to marital unity, and that this is what most (but not all) couples achieve through sex. Our article includes a short note about why pleasure cannot be another biological good in respect of which two individuals are in some sense biologically united, by sexual activities other than coitus:

Pleasure cannot play this role for several reasons. The good must be truly common and for the couple as a whole, but pleasures (and, indeed, any psychological good) are private and benefit partners, if at all, only individually. The good must be bodily, but pleasures are aspects of experience. The good must be inherently valuable, but pleasures are not as such good in themselves--witness, for example, sadistic pleasures.

Ignoring our first two points, Deutsch says of the last sentence:

[That] is a little like saying "childbirth is not as such a good in itself-witness, for example, the birth of Hitler." For any good, one could imagine an instance of the good being used for negative purposes; yet if "can never be used for negative purposes" is the definition of good, then absolutely nothing on this mortal Earth is or ever can be good. That's silly. In the right context (i.e., not Hitler), childbirth is a good; and in the right context, sexual pleasure is also a good.

Our point was not that sadistic pleasures are inherently good things that just happen to be used for bad purposes. First, it is a confusion to speak of sadistic pleasures being used for bad purposes. It is the other way around: sadists seek what is bad or evil for the sake of pleasure, which they typically seek for its own sake. Second, we agree (who wouldn't?) that good things can be twisted. Our point was that in sadistic pleasures, it is not as if the pleasure itself is good, only sought by illicit means. Pleasure taken in bad things is bad. And we doubt that Deutsch would disagree. If a man took pleasure in strolling the halls of a pediatric oncology ward to watch children die of cancer, no one would we say, "Well, it's too bad that's what suits his fancy--but at least he got pleasure out of it." Pleasure does not have its own value, considered as a state of mind independently of its object; it shares in the moral quality of that object. Now communities--like friendship or marriage--are built up by the pursuit of what is inherently valuable. So marriage cannot be built up by the common pursuit of pleasure just as such. Spouses must achieve some good (organic union as an embodiment of their commitment), in which the pleasure they take is then an additional perfection. That was our point.

From these misunderstandings, Deutsch rushes to his conclusion:

But at heart, "What Is Marriage" is a faith-based argument. George believes, as a matter of faith (all he has, since he lacks evidence), that there's something called "bodily union," a biological merger of male and female bodies, that occurs only in coitus....

But basing laws on Robert George's faith in a mythical "bodily union" is no better than basing laws on my faith in Mork from Ork. Robert George and his fellow-travelers may have faith in magical bodily unions, but they would be morally wrong to force that faith on us through the legal system....

But now we're treading on even more bewildering territory. Do we want a society in which people's civil rights are decided, not by what is just, not by what is pragmatic, not by what is fair, but by a metaphor? Metaphors, unlike facts, can change arbitrarily. Suppose that George chooses to believe in a different metaphor next year -- a metaphor saying that comprehensive unity can only be achieved by dog owners, for instance. Would we then be obliged to change marriage laws to exclude cat owners?

Ridicule is the last resort of desperate arguments. If Deutsch had achieved a sound understanding of our view (as Koppelman did) and then produced a valid argument against it (as Koppelman made a serious effort to do), he would have had no need of putting words into our mouths ("biological merger") or festooning his critique with dismissive terms ("mythical," "magical"). A sound objection would have sufficed. But a dozen sneers do not make an objection.

What Deutsch calls the protean "myth" at the heart of marriage law has been its cornerstone for centuries. Our legal tradition understood coitus and coitus alone as consummating (and thus completing) a marriage, but never accepted infertility as a ground for annulment or dissolution. Our argument--into which readers will gain little insight by reading Deutsch's post--can make ample sense of that tradition, in a way that also accounts for other marital norms (permanence, exclusivity, monogamy). Can Deutsch? What is the non-arbitrary basis on which he would ground these norms (assuming he accepts them), while rejecting sexual complementarity as integral to marriage? Our guess: he will do no better than other advocates of redefining civil marriage have done in meeting our challenge. What argument would Deutsch make against the 300 academics and activists who signed "Beyond Gay Marriage," or others who would eliminate the requirements of monogamy and sexual exclusivity? Or would he join them?

The common biological action of mating is no myth; it is a biological fact. Ask any zoologist (or farmer). The real question is whether human mating, precisely in virtue of the unity it effectuates, is capable of having moral significance of a certain sort. Can it embody and complete an inherently valuable, comprehensive form of relationship--historically known as marriage--that is, like mating itself, ordered to procreation? We have argued as much. And if we are right, then not only sexual complementarity, but the other structuring marital principles recognized by our legal tradition--monogamy, sexual exclusivity, the pledge of permanence--are intelligible and sound. Yet they cannot be accounted for by a sneering Barry Deutsch any more than by a commendably thoughtful and morally serious scholar like Andrew Koppelman.

Sherif Girgis is a PhD Candidate in Philosophy at Princeton University. Ryan T. Anderson is a PhD Candidate in Political Science at the University of Notre Dame. Robert P. George is McCormick Professor of Jurisprudence at Princeton University.

Copyright 2010 the Witherspoon Institute. All rights reserved.

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Over the past three years - with your help - NOM has grown to become one of the nation's most effective advocacy organizations, and the nation's largest national organization focused solely on defending marriage. And together we've achieved some incredible victories, becoming the largest single contributor to the Prop 8 campaign, organizing grassroots opposition to block same-sex marriage in New York and New Jersey, heading the effort to repeal same-sex marriage in Maine, and helping to flip state legislatures in New Hampshire, Minnesota, Pennsylvania and Indiana.

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Same-sex marriage radicals will stop at nothing as they seek to force their agenda on the nation - "whether you like it or not!" as San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom put it so memorably. Even in just these past two weeks, we've seen the depths to which some same-sex marriage activists will stoop in their campaign for same-sex marriage - even to the point of exploiting young children, filling their mouths with hateful obscenities.

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